Billy from Michigan asks:
"A couple of times in the book you mention seeing a 'big' girl as if that is not a good thing if she is heavy. I happen to enjoy big women and I know for a fact that a lot of guys do as well. Why would you do that?"
I need to defend myself on this one. I went back and re-read the mentions you refer to, and I still don't find anything wrong with my comments. There are only a couple of instances where I refer to "big" women, but it is absolutely not anything negative. Within the chapter about the tendencies of young women, I comment about how I have observed that "big" women most often seem to prefer to hide their hips but are not ashamed of having an ample supply on top. That is an observation based on my years of experience, and certainly not a knock at all.
One of the general challenges of my book, "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" is that it is written for guys in general, and guys around the country often have different tastes in the women they want to check out. Some guys do not find large women worth looking at at all, while others totally adore them. Guys have a tougher time distinguishing body parts on dark skinned women, and that can impact the techniques I discuss.
My point is that I feel that no opinions about big women, or any specific physical characteristic of women, are included in the book. But I made some distinctions about tendencies of different sized women. I hope you will re-read those chapters.
But I will also tell you that I enjoy checking out a babe that is well proportioned regardless of how little or how much she weighs. What matters is whether or not I consider her to be attractive. I happen to enjoy some meat on the bones, as well as finely tuned. The fact that every female's body is different in some way makes it all worthwhile. I like variety. However, the book isn't there to tell you what I like. It is about how to check it out.
As always, readers and listeners (to the Audio Book version) of "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" are welcome to e-mail me with comments at ic.london at live.com.
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Monday, March 16, 2009
A little bit of defense.............
More questions and comments from those who have read or listened to "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" and e-mail me at ic.london at live.com:
Rhonda of South Carolina writes:
"My husband told me about this book, but I'll admit I only heard about 10 minutes of it. From what I heard and what he told me, you talk a lot about women of college age and into their 20's. I am in my mid-30's and consider myself to be in great shape and still turning heads. But according to you, no guys would pay attention to me. What about us "older" women?"
A fair question, Rhonda. I'll admit you have a point there. It wasn't until seeing some of these questions after the book was out that I realized that. I have recently pointed out in this blog that I'm sure I have checked out some women who are in the 30's or maybe early 40's, just as I have probably checked out some that are too young. It is how they look.
In my defense, I wrote a lot about those who are students and into their 20's because they tend to show more and be what I call more accessible than women in their 30's. But that is a general comment. The younger women spend more time going to concerts and festivals, to the beach, and being around and about where I (and other guys) are on the lookout.
Back when I was in school and then in my 20's, I had my "cutoff" and wasn't interested in checking out women that I estimated to be over 30. I never meant to discriminate. (It's almost as though I can't even say this anymore.) Just a personal preference. As a result, that is where many of my experiences came from.
I'll be honest. Now that I am near 50, I still prefer to check out babes who look to be younger than mid-30's. My wife's friends and mostly in their 40's and I simply don't have the same level of interest in looking at them as I used to. In a couple of instances, I have had to be careful where I look when they have been around with daughters of college age. However, when I was in my 20's, I remember checking out and seeing some views of my friends' wives and girlfriends.
I wrote about what worked for me and the various techniques I used. They happen to have been used for younger women. No offense intended.
Rhonda of South Carolina writes:
"My husband told me about this book, but I'll admit I only heard about 10 minutes of it. From what I heard and what he told me, you talk a lot about women of college age and into their 20's. I am in my mid-30's and consider myself to be in great shape and still turning heads. But according to you, no guys would pay attention to me. What about us "older" women?"
A fair question, Rhonda. I'll admit you have a point there. It wasn't until seeing some of these questions after the book was out that I realized that. I have recently pointed out in this blog that I'm sure I have checked out some women who are in the 30's or maybe early 40's, just as I have probably checked out some that are too young. It is how they look.
In my defense, I wrote a lot about those who are students and into their 20's because they tend to show more and be what I call more accessible than women in their 30's. But that is a general comment. The younger women spend more time going to concerts and festivals, to the beach, and being around and about where I (and other guys) are on the lookout.
Back when I was in school and then in my 20's, I had my "cutoff" and wasn't interested in checking out women that I estimated to be over 30. I never meant to discriminate. (It's almost as though I can't even say this anymore.) Just a personal preference. As a result, that is where many of my experiences came from.
I'll be honest. Now that I am near 50, I still prefer to check out babes who look to be younger than mid-30's. My wife's friends and mostly in their 40's and I simply don't have the same level of interest in looking at them as I used to. In a couple of instances, I have had to be careful where I look when they have been around with daughters of college age. However, when I was in my 20's, I remember checking out and seeing some views of my friends' wives and girlfriends.
I wrote about what worked for me and the various techniques I used. They happen to have been used for younger women. No offense intended.
Saturday, January 24, 2009
A good article.............
I thought some of you guys might enjoy this article, as I did:
http://www.canada.com/vancouversun/news/editorial/story.html?id=1751a7a0-90fe-44b7-9677-111a7efdd52f&p=1
It's called "Let's Face It - Men Like Looking At Women". This is really a "clean" version of what my Total Creep book is about. This writer talks about the hair and the walk the many of the appealing parts of checking out the babes. Good balance............
http://www.canada.com/vancouversun/news/editorial/story.html?id=1751a7a0-90fe-44b7-9677-111a7efdd52f&p=1
It's called "Let's Face It - Men Like Looking At Women". This is really a "clean" version of what my Total Creep book is about. This writer talks about the hair and the walk the many of the appealing parts of checking out the babes. Good balance............
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