the bars and more

Alan R. of Georgia writes:

"I enjoyed the book, but you hardly mention bars and clubs or concerts where babes sometimes flash their (breasts) or better. How could you overlook the clubs as such good sources?"

That is because the book "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" is intended to serve a different void. When a babe flashes or exposes herself in public it means she wants guys to see. Or it means she is drunk or out of control and doesn't realize what she has done. And, yes, I'm pleased to say that I have had a few of those experiences over the years as well. And I have enjoyed them as much as if not more than any other guy.

However, that type of experience is a matter of being in the right place at the right time. It's not like you can make that happen all by itself.

The vast majority of babes do not want guys to see what is doing under their clothes, but a lot of them provide opportunities for a "total creep" like me to enjoy the view. My focus is on how to make those opportunities work for you.

My having lived in apartments or condos most of my life has enabled me to check out literally hundreds of babes in the privacy of their own home, and now I am sharing the knowledge and experience. Instead of hanging out in a club hoping some babe will lift up her top, I could be at home waiting for a hottie living across the street to get home from a night out. After her boyfriend drops her off and leaves, I get to see her take everything off and go into and out of the shower. There is no special knowledge needed to see a babe flash, but there is to gain from what I have learned over the years.

Stan K. of Ohio writes:

"Man, I can't believe you haven't been arrested doing some of the things you did. Are you sure you never got into any trouble with the law?"

A fair question, Stan. I'll admit that at my horniest in my early 20's I did a couple of things I would not write about. Somehow I made myself realize that I could do enough things without risk to see naked babes to not further the risk. I will also tell you that stalking and privacy laws were not as strict years ago, and I came to respect those. Please let me clarify.

One time many years ago I was in a store when an incredibly hot chick came in to pick up an order. I was at the counter and saw her name and address, and knew the block she lived on. Later in the week I actually went there, parked the car, and walked around behind where she lived to try and see in from the alley behind. Not close enough to be a peeping tom, but I'm sure that a guy hanging around in a dark alley behind a babe's apartment and then walking up the outside stairs of the building across the way wasn't exactly being a good samaritan.

I was probably lucky that both nights that I tried the shades and curtains were tight and I couldn't see a thing. Then I decided it wasn't worth the risk and did not go back. But this is one incident of something questionable. There were a couple of times that followed babes home, from a distance, to see where they lived to know if I could see in from a distance. Again, this was before the laws were understandably tightened in this regard. I was never caught or questioned, but I was not able to see anything worthwhile either.

Well, one time I did. One night about 20 years ago I had gone to some event about an hour away from home that was near a residential area. I noticed an apartment complex with basement apartments with windows, and it was about 10:00 on a weeknight. I parked down the block and while walking toward one of the courtways I noticed a hottie walking toward me. I said a neighborly "hello" and she said "hi" and walked past me. I turned around and noticed she was turning to go down another courtway, so I waited a moment and then turned around and saw where she was going into an entrance. I could see her walk in through the security door and then head down stairs.

It looked like she was going into the first apartment, which had a couple of windows near the walkway. Sure enough, I saw lights go on in that apartment. I waited about 3 minutes, and walked back around there, noticing that the curtains were open in one of the rooms. The walkway was about 15 feet from the window, which was mostly below ground level.

Just as I looked in, I saw her from behind and she was down to her underwear. I stood there quietly in the dark for a minute or two (looking around to make sure no one else was coming). Sure enough, within 2 minutes she came walking out and was now topless! I then calmly (calm on the outside) walked away and did not look back. I think that if she saw a shadow or someone she would have thought someone was walking by. I casually walked around to the other side of the building, then back out toward the street, and got in my car and left. I never went back.

I must emphasize that this was before stalking became a public issue. Now, I would never do this. Nor did I write about this for the book, and I don't suggest any guy do anything like this anymore. Heck, I could probably write another book, or at least a couple more chapters, about my experiences in what were dangerous (in terms of risking arrest or public embarassment) or no longer legal.

So to answer your question, Stan, I get where you are coming from. Now I hope you understand that even when spying on a babe while within your own home, you need to take the precautions I write about so that you do not get into trouble.

To put it another way, it makes life a lot easier when I can see down a babe's jeans when she sits down in the food court compared with standing in a dark alley hoping for a shade to be pulled up a few inches.


Readers and listeners to "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" are welcome to e-mail we with your questions and comments at ic.london at live.com. Thanks for your feedback about how you are enjoying this blog, too. So am I!!

My past girlfriends and wife

Hank S. of Delaware writes:

"I especially enjoyed the parts of the book where you explain about seeing the goods on babes who are wives or girlfriends of your friends. I was fortunate enough to get the chance to use one of your suggestions and it worked. But I know I sure wouldn't like it if I knew another guy could see my wife's (breasts) or butt. Do you feel the same way? If so, do have you any preventive measures?"

Interesting question, Hank, and glad to have helped you already. I will tell you that I have always had the selfish attitude that it is OK for me to check out any babe I want to but not OK for guys to "see" the woman I am with.

Personally, I have gone as far as to ask a then serious girlfriend to make an adjustment so that guys wouldn't be able to see. There was one night when I drove up to get her for a night out and she came out wearing a tight and partially see-through top without a bra. Instinctively I could see through to her breasts while she opened the door to get in the car. A few minutes later, we were walking into a restaurant and a young guy we were walking past had his mouth hanging open and was, shall we say, enjoying the view.

Well, I knew exactly where he was looking and certainly didn't like it. Later that night, in the privacy of the car, I came right out and told her that as much as she absolutely turned me on by wearing that outside, I prefer and appreciate being the only one to get to see and enjoy what she has going on under her shirt. I then told her about that guy in the restaurant staring at them and that I didn't like that. And from that point on, I never saw her outside of her home or mine wearing anything that revealing again.

But I know she appreciated how I told her and saw it as a compliment. After that, she did even more to turn me on even more when we were at home and in private. This was more than 20 years ago and I still remember her for this. She would always wear underwear and not reveal too much when we were out, but then would take off her underwear and unbutton or unzip a lot more after we got home. Just for me.

It is funny in a way, but my wife has always been good about this, and I never had to bring it up. She didn't and still doesn't show anything when she goes out, but is quite sexy at home.

But that is for the woman I am with. Otherwise, it is fair game, even if it is a babe going with a family member or great friend.

I know, and I am sure you do to, of many guys who don't care or are not phased when the woman they are with, even a wife, is wearing something revealing. Us total creeps should continue to be thankful for them.

If you have enjoyed "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" and have a question or comment, please e-mail me at ic.london at live.com. I answer as many as I can here.

Quirkly reactions?

The "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" readers and listeners continue to write me at ic.london at live.com..........

Rob K. of Missouri asks:

"Do you think it necessary to go to that much detail just to see another set of (breasts)? Aren't they pretty much alike? Isn't it easier to go to a strip club once in a while?"

It is obvious to me that going to "detail" helps us total creep guys to accomplish our purpose, so I'll answer your question with a "Yes". If you still don't believe me, then next time you walk by a group of construction workers or even a group of young guys and there are hot babes walking around or walking past, watch the eyes of the guys and see where they are looking.

And, no, all body parts are not alike, especially the breasts. The very start of the book addresses how the gals in strip clubs don't seem like "real girls", since it is how they make their living. I find that way different than a "real" hot babe with her collar open. If it was just me who felt that way, I'd have a book that wouldn't have sold anything.

From what I have observed and from talking with guys, I know there are plenty of guys out there who wonder what every attractive babe they see looks like naked. I am here to help them try to find out, and do so without getting into any trouble.

Please write back when you have specific questions about the book.

See the wife or girlfriend

The readers and listeners of "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" continue to comment at my ic.london at live.com e-mail. I'm trying to answer as many as I can.

Mike S. of Georgia writes:

"I don't believe you do things like looking down the blouse of a friend's wife. If this is really an important friend, why would you risk a relationship? And if it wasn't that close of a friend, then why do you make it appear it was?"

A fair question, Mike. Before I answer your questions directly, let me clarify. Total Creep addresses situations where it really is a friend as well as when a babe is with her husband or boyfriend. There are differences in how to handle each situation, and that needs to be made clear.

Yes, I have seen some of the goods of a wife or girlfriend of some of my good friends I have known for years. As the book explains, a big part of doing this is to never let on that you are a "total creep" who would look when the opportunity arises. You can't be obvious or blatant about it. It is all about creating those opportunities and then knowing how to handle them.

Since I want to be sure you understand this, I'll give an example. (So those not already reading or listening to the book can learn, too.) A few years ago I was at a back yard barbeque at the home of a male friend. My wife was chatting with someone else, so I went over to the patio to get some more food. My buddy's girlfriend was bending over to get a can of soda, and was facing at a side angle. Her collar was loose enough to where I could see an entire breast, as it turned out she wasn't wearing a bra.

But here is the point I make in the book, and part of why I wrote it in the first place. The next step is the most important step, which is to act like you didn't see a thing. And the final step is to eliminate any suspicion "she" may have that you were.

Just to make certain she couldn't tell I was looking down her collar, I said something like "Oh, there is the ketchup. It was only right in front of my nose!". This makes her think I was looking somewhere nearby. Of course, you need to be sure there is ketchup nearby. If not, it could be in a "I still can't find the ketchup (or the chips, etc.)" comment. Whatever it takes to have her believe I wasn't looking at her. My (male) friend was in the next room. The 'girlfriend' knowing that my buddy has known me for years and trusts me also plays into this.

Oh yes, one more fact about this wonderful incident. I didn't really need the ketchup or any more food. But I got some and nobody questioned it. I had noticed the girlfriend walking over toward the cooler on the ground with an empty cup and had already noticed her open collar top. Anticipation.

You need to anticipate, know who is where, and have the right situation to be able to see what you can see. And then be ready to cover your tracks.

My point is that I used my years of experience to be able to anticipate a sighting, knew to be in position to get a good angle, get the great view without reacting to it, and then present my "cover".

To those who haven't yet purchased your copy, there are a bunch of examples just like that designed to educate you on how to get the best views and cover your tracks.

The land down under...........

The readers continue to write me at ic.london at live.com:

Jesse of Ohio writes:

"I don't get all of the time you spend talking about seeing panties. It is no big deal."

While I appreciate the comment, Jessie, I don't feel that I did. Panties are only part of the big picture. I explain about the importance of knowing what type of panties she has on. Whether she has "regular" or thong panties, or none at all, has an impact on what would be your best angle when she sits down, squats, or bends over. In addition, there is the practice of having the best angle up a skirt or shorts or down her jeans. Sometimes panties don't cover everything. Sometimes she won't be wearing panties and you will have the best possible angle and view.

I also discuss ways to get to know the panties habits of babes you see on a regular basis. It can help for positioning when you already know what to expect.

To me, it is like in football practice when players on offense do drills to tackle an opponent after a fumble recovery or interception. You don't want for that to occur, but at some point it will, and you want to be ready for it.

My point, with all due respect, is that it is not about seeing panties. It is about what you do and did to see them.

A little bit of defense.............

More questions and comments from those who have read or listened to "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" and e-mail me at ic.london at live.com:

Rhonda of South Carolina writes:

"My husband told me about this book, but I'll admit I only heard about 10 minutes of it. From what I heard and what he told me, you talk a lot about women of college age and into their 20's. I am in my mid-30's and consider myself to be in great shape and still turning heads. But according to you, no guys would pay attention to me. What about us "older" women?"

A fair question, Rhonda. I'll admit you have a point there. It wasn't until seeing some of these questions after the book was out that I realized that. I have recently pointed out in this blog that I'm sure I have checked out some women who are in the 30's or maybe early 40's, just as I have probably checked out some that are too young. It is how they look.

In my defense, I wrote a lot about those who are students and into their 20's because they tend to show more and be what I call more accessible than women in their 30's. But that is a general comment. The younger women spend more time going to concerts and festivals, to the beach, and being around and about where I (and other guys) are on the lookout.

Back when I was in school and then in my 20's, I had my "cutoff" and wasn't interested in checking out women that I estimated to be over 30. I never meant to discriminate. (It's almost as though I can't even say this anymore.) Just a personal preference. As a result, that is where many of my experiences came from.

I'll be honest. Now that I am near 50, I still prefer to check out babes who look to be younger than mid-30's. My wife's friends and mostly in their 40's and I simply don't have the same level of interest in looking at them as I used to. In a couple of instances, I have had to be careful where I look when they have been around with daughters of college age. However, when I was in my 20's, I remember checking out and seeing some views of my friends' wives and girlfriends.

I wrote about what worked for me and the various techniques I used. They happen to have been used for younger women. No offense intended.

Keeping abreast of the readers' thoughts.........

Again, thanks for the great feedback about "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide". You can write me at ic.london at live.com. I'll try to respond to as many as I can here.

Arnie C. of Minnesota writes:

"Your audio book is awesome. My brother sent it to me here at college. I have been listening while in the workout area on campus and actually have been watching some babes while listening to you. (Note - I don't narrate the book. Ken Collier does and is excellent!) The best part was yesterday afternoon when I finished working out. I was walking up the outside stairway back to my dorm when I noticed a (female student) sitting on the stairs wearing a skirt. I was able to get a good angle looking all the way up. Then I took your advice and casually turned around after going up past her and got to see a bit of her butt. Never would have thought of that if not for you! Why did you take so long to publish this?"

Thanks, Arnie. A long question, but I appreciate that. I can answer you by saying, again, that it is experiences such as yours that are the reason I 'finally' put this out. There have been many instances where I have been able to see the goods on a babe when there are other guys around who could also enjoy but aren't paying enough attention to realize it. It's not like I can stand there and wave and point to guys I don't know to come and take a look.

Eddie O. of Indiana writes:

"I enjoyed hearing your book as much as everyone else seems to be. But I'm fascinated with the number of experiences you have had seeing (breasts). I have been able to see a lot of bra, but am not getting anywhere with all of the (breast). What gives?"

There are no guarantees in life, Eddie. What gives seems to be the fashion lords. On one side, more and more young ladies wear tops which reveal a ton of skin. Sometimes even to work and to school, which never was acceptable until the past few years. And often even more revealing when out socially. The down side to that is that it increases their need to protect some or most of their breasts. Showing bra straps and even the top inch of bra isn't even questioned anymore.

While it is most enjoyable to more easily see a lot of skin and get more easy looks down into a bra, this fashion trend has significantly increased the percentage of young ladies who wear a bra most or all of the time.

Until this decade, it seemed that more young ladies would not wear a bra but not wear tops that were revealing. It was during those times that my "full" breast sightings were more common. When she would lean over and not realize her collar came down enough to give a quick look all the way down. Or be seated where I could walk by and get a nice glance down over her shoulder and see it all. Especially in warm weather hubs such as Los Angeles, Miami, and others where a summer stroll would totally make your day.

So to answer your question, seeing all of the breasts is much more of a challenge because of the percentage who now wear a bra. Hopefully that will change back in the next couple of years. However, the trade off has been the shorter tops and t-shirts that allow for so many panties and butt crack views. I would say I saw maybe 3 or 4 butt views in public over the 20+ years of looking until this decade. In the past couple of years, to me it is as if the butt views and full breast views have almost switched places.

And I hear what you are saying. The last couple of summers, I have noticed that the few babes not wearing a bra are wearing something not as revealing and it takes a break such as leaning over or a loose collar while seated for me to be able to see in. We all have no choice but to wait and see what the trends are.