What Makes Women More Confident?

A most interesting article about female confidence...........

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2117576/Push-bras-make-women-75-confident-says-study.html   

Although I would have loved to help with this research, these findings fit in with what I have noticed over the past 30+ years of spying on babes in the privacy of their homes.

I have noticed, and wrote about this in my most recent book (Total Creep - A Guy's Guide), how easy it is to tell how confident a woman is by how she carries herself fully or partially naked, even in private.

What is interesting to me is that it is not necessarily how well, or how poorly, she is built. I have observed some petite babes who have kept covered up at all times even when home alone, as well as some chubby babes who walk around naked with total confidence.

I have observed some babes who would sometimes walk around at home with little to nothing on, but appear slouched over or with their shoulders clenched as if to signal they don't like their boobs. This is with no one around and they obviously have no idea that a man is watching them. With others, even when naked, I can tell if they are happier with their boobs than their butt or vice versa.

Even in public, I have seen babes display differing levels of confidence based on their body parts. At one of the naked bike rides I was a spectator at, I remember one babe peddling along totally naked even though one boob was smaller and even hung lower than the other. Not the prettiest set of boobs (although it did not deter me from looking), and she was not shaved further down, but she rode that way and was smiling during the time I saw her. Yet, there were a couple of other babes nearby with much nicer bodies, yet one of them had a bra top on while another was only topless.

But the babe with the "bad" boobies was confident enough to show herself in full on a downtown street during daylight and be smiling.

So if a push-up bra helps the cause, so be it. If us guys can only get the babes under 30 to realize that we want to see no matter what's doing..................

I Like Her Spirit

This news story caught my attention. I'd sure like to know more about the "spirits" that the woman in the story felt, with the hope that women in their 20's would be able to channel them!!

http://triblocal.com/gurnee/2011/05/26/naked-woman-found-at-police-station-says-spirits-directed-her-there/

It's too bad the woman is 52 years old. Maybe that's why she wasn't arrested. On a side note, I think there is some form of discrimination because she was not arrested. You know that if this was done by a male, he would have been arrested under those circumstances. 

Right?

His best friend's girl - taped while showering

Boy, she must be a very hot babe for the guy to go to this extent:


http://www.odt.co.nz/news/national/145815/peeping-tom-filmed-mates-girlfriend


Of course, that doesn't make it right either. But if the suspect was living in the same house, I'd have to think there would have been an easier and less risky way to see her naked.

She must not like very many men......

Linda of IL writes:

"I heard maybe 5 minutes of your chapter about looking down tops and cannot believe you haven't been locked up yet. Since then I have started to notice guys trying to look down my top when I have leaned over. I glared at one of them and he practically sprinted out of the lobby. What an invasion of privacy, but you seem to think nothing of it. No wonder you don't reveal where you live. You disgust me. Why do you hate women so much? We are so much more than what is under our clothes."


Linda, I'm sure you didn't expect to see my answer this, but I answer the readers and listeners of my book. It is not as though no male ever looked or tried to look down a shirt or up a dress until I came along. You'd be amazed at what guys will do when nudity is nearby, legal or otherwise. You see, I didn't invent or inspire it. My information is geared toward those who want to learn more about how to do it. It's the old saying, "Don't shoot the messenger".

You also don't take into account that some women are well aware they have a lot showing, especially in the last few years when necklines and collars opened up more than ever before. I didn't make them do that! Give us guys a nice view, and we'll take it.

More importantly, I don't "hate" women. I love them. I enjoy the female body to the point that I want to see millions of them and haven't gotten tired of seeing female body parts after nearly 40 years of looking every opportunity I can create. Sorry if I disgust you, but if you don't like every guy that wants to see what you and other young women look like naked, you'd have very little male company. Just because I don't adhere to your personal philosophies does not mean there is hate involved.

I can be reached at ic.london at live.com, and will answer reader/listener comments here if approved.

He who hesitates is lost

Joey C. of NJ writes:

"I enjoyed listening to your audio book two times. Your advice is great, and I especially liked your tips for when going to ballgames and outdoor concerts. As a 24 year old single guy, I also had the ability to check out some apartments across the courtway. I have seen a married chick one floor down who sometimes walks around with her shirt completely unbuttoned and her (boobs) pop out all the time.

However, even as a horny as I get on nights I don't have a date, I still don't know that I could do some of the things you talk about. I think it's one thing to see a check walking around with her shirt open, but frankly I think you take it too far. Watching chicks sleeping, having sex, grooming, and taking a shower doesn't seem right. Don't you really feel guilty about that?"

A fair question Joey, and thanks for the permission to post your note. I usually get these comments and questions from women (see the next question). In your case, you see the value of spying on the babes, and you can watch for whatever you want. Yes, it is extremely invasive to watch a babe when she assumes she has privacy. Not that this makes it "right", but the saying "What she doesn't know can't hurt her" means everything.

You never know what you'll see when you look into someone's home. In my book I wanted to cover any and all possibilities, because I have certainly seen my share in 35+ years and while living or staying in numerous cities across the country. I don't like watching a babe have sex with a guy either. Seeing a naked guy is a huge turnoff for me. If I know when the couple starts the sex act, I will often check back every couple minutes. It's not the act I want to see, and certainly not the guy, but I want to see the babe naked when they are done. I find that most of the time she will either sit up or get up to cover herself or put something on to head into the bathroom. That's the only moment I'm truly watching for. In that instance of her being with a guy, I also point out to you that she is well aware that a guy is seeing her naked. Same when babes walk around the house with little or nothing on right in front of her significant other. They know that a guy is seeing their body, even though they don't know it's more than one.

When I have watch babes while sleeping, it is really waiting for them to wake up and get out of bed in the morning so I can see what's doing under the covers. As detailed in the book, some wear nightgowns but without panties underneath, while others sleep wearing little or nothing. It has also happened where I have waited an hour or more for a babe to get up only to have it turn out that she is wearing full pajamas or a non-revealing nightgown, but those are the risks we take.

Personally, I love watching a babe taking a shower, or watching the shower area knowing she is in there and will be coming out stark naked any second. While I have admitted that watching them on the toilet still feels awkward, I always keep the purpose in mind. I don't enjoy that she is relieving herself. Rather, I wait for the moment that she stands up so that I can see what I can see while she pulls up her panties or pants.

One solution to your concern, since not all of that is for you, is to not look into her bedroom or bathroom window if a view becomes available. Glad you enjoyed the chapters on public events, too. Let me know how you handle this.

Sherry K. of OH writes:

"You telling guys how to watch women at home with binoculars should be cause to have you locked up without a key. This is a complete breach of privacy. I just sent a boyfriend of two months away for good after he let me listen to about 5 minutes of your audio. I wouldn't want a guy who would do that anywhere near me. Or any other woman for that matter. I can't even ask how you would like it if you were watched in the shower or undressing, because most guys don't care. You don't understand how you violate our right to privacy. Your neighbors are not in a porn movie. You disgust me."

Well, Sherry, sorry if I helped cost you a boyfriend. Not to be difficult or not respect your opinion, but nobody is forcing guys to buy my book or audio book and to take my advice and utilize my experiences. In some ways, it is a compliment to these babes that guys enjoy seeing them partially or fully naked. I don't watch just any female. There are many that I could have seen but wasn't interested despite the opportunity. I don't care to look if she isn't attractive. There are guys who enjoy checking out much older women and I think that's disgusting. But they can use my advice and experience for whatever purpose.

If I didn't see a lot of other guys doing these things and checking out the babes no matter what, I wouldn't have taken the hours and hours to create my book and sell more than I had anticipated. I would bet the ranch that every boyfriend you get wouldn't want to see you and other women naked at every opportunity. Don't shoot the messenger.

Male or female, readers and listeners of my book are encouraged to send comments and questions to me. "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" is available at www.TotalCreep.com.

The Total Creep and schedules

Brian F. of Philadelphia writes:

“You hit it on the nose about the tendencies of babes at home. I can’t thank you enough. I did my exploring of the apartment building across the street and found a hot babe that likes to shower around 11:00 every night and then walk out to go into her bedroom before putting anything back on. As long as her curtains stay open, this is becoming habit forming. How did you figure this out?”

Thanks, and nice going on your find. This is something I noticed since the beginning of my binoculars days going all the way back to when I was in high school. But it is not limited to hot babes when you stop to think about it. I’ll be you probably set your alarm clock for the same time every morning and have your routine to start and end your day. The next time you are amazed that the hottie in that apartment just walked naked where you could see her right on schedule, think about how many things you and people in your life do at around the same time every day. Or every working day, at the very least.

The first couple of weeks after you find a babe to “watch” at home are important for YOUR schedule, too. Chances are you would spend a few hours in each of those first few nights in order to narrow it down to the best possible time(s) to be watching. You might have watched a few nights from 8 until 11 to see her make her walk before you realized that she is fairly consistent about the 11:00 time frame.

Depending on how many places (or how few) you can see into which have babes worth watching, you will find that knowing their schedules can save you hours of looking through binoculars at someone watching TV while staying dressed, or waiting and waiting until she gets home.

As I wrote in the book, I had my observation schedule going to the max during the couple of years I could see into a high rise building in a big city. From the babe that would start her day by walking into the kitchen at least topless early in the morning to the one that would walk around naked to turn out the lights just after 11:00 on weeknights. Of course, there are exceptions and there will be surprises where the routine changes or is different for a day or two.

You are welcome to comment on my book “ Total Creep – A Guy’s Guide “ at ic.london at live.com. I do my best to answer as many as I can.

Keeping quiet

Darrin C. of Iowa asks:

"Have you ever told a babe what you saw, or been tempted to do that? Last night I saw a neighbor babe across the courtway take off her top and bra to change, and this morning I saw her in the garage. It was so tempting to tell her I like her little blue nightie but I knew I had better not."

First, Darrin, congrats on your sighting! Let me tell you how much I understand exactly what you mean. It is difficult to keep it quiet sometimes, but common sense takes over and you don't and shouldn't let on to a babe. One slip of the lips could do you a lot of harm. You need to always remember that. She could tell others that you did or said something.

Let me relate a personal "non-experience" I had. I remember years ago walking down the block from my car with my girlfriend at the time heading toward my apartment. We walked by a young lady that lived in the next apartment building over, and like we occasionally did, we exchanged a "hello" when passing. After we passed, I remember telling my girlfriend that I see her going to her car and I "think she lives in that brown building over there".

What I didn't tell my girlfriend was that I had seen her completely naked several times and knew her car and her boyfriend's car. But I thought about what could have happened if that babe somehow knew I had seen her naked with binoculars. She could have caused a lot of damage to my relationship. And I have kept that thought ever since.

As tempting as it gets, don't say anything or let on. Telling a buddy who will keep your secret is one thing. But always be careful who you tell.

But I certainly understand the temptation. I once saw a babe who lived across the street and managed a simple "hello". As much as I wanted to ask her if she today was one of the days when she didn't wear any underwear, but I knew that chances are she would have freaked out. She could have alerted authorities who could have been watching me and nailed me for good. Better to think I am a friendly neighbor. And better for me to know I could still see her naked from time to time. A better choice, I am sure!

Thanks to the readers and listeners to "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" for e-mailing me with questions and comments at ic.london at live.com.

Quirkly reactions?

The "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" readers and listeners continue to write me at ic.london at live.com..........

Rob K. of Missouri asks:

"Do you think it necessary to go to that much detail just to see another set of (breasts)? Aren't they pretty much alike? Isn't it easier to go to a strip club once in a while?"

It is obvious to me that going to "detail" helps us total creep guys to accomplish our purpose, so I'll answer your question with a "Yes". If you still don't believe me, then next time you walk by a group of construction workers or even a group of young guys and there are hot babes walking around or walking past, watch the eyes of the guys and see where they are looking.

And, no, all body parts are not alike, especially the breasts. The very start of the book addresses how the gals in strip clubs don't seem like "real girls", since it is how they make their living. I find that way different than a "real" hot babe with her collar open. If it was just me who felt that way, I'd have a book that wouldn't have sold anything.

From what I have observed and from talking with guys, I know there are plenty of guys out there who wonder what every attractive babe they see looks like naked. I am here to help them try to find out, and do so without getting into any trouble.

Please write back when you have specific questions about the book.