What Makes Women More Confident?

A most interesting article about female confidence...........

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2117576/Push-bras-make-women-75-confident-says-study.html   

Although I would have loved to help with this research, these findings fit in with what I have noticed over the past 30+ years of spying on babes in the privacy of their homes.

I have noticed, and wrote about this in my most recent book (Total Creep - A Guy's Guide), how easy it is to tell how confident a woman is by how she carries herself fully or partially naked, even in private.

What is interesting to me is that it is not necessarily how well, or how poorly, she is built. I have observed some petite babes who have kept covered up at all times even when home alone, as well as some chubby babes who walk around naked with total confidence.

I have observed some babes who would sometimes walk around at home with little to nothing on, but appear slouched over or with their shoulders clenched as if to signal they don't like their boobs. This is with no one around and they obviously have no idea that a man is watching them. With others, even when naked, I can tell if they are happier with their boobs than their butt or vice versa.

Even in public, I have seen babes display differing levels of confidence based on their body parts. At one of the naked bike rides I was a spectator at, I remember one babe peddling along totally naked even though one boob was smaller and even hung lower than the other. Not the prettiest set of boobs (although it did not deter me from looking), and she was not shaved further down, but she rode that way and was smiling during the time I saw her. Yet, there were a couple of other babes nearby with much nicer bodies, yet one of them had a bra top on while another was only topless.

But the babe with the "bad" boobies was confident enough to show herself in full on a downtown street during daylight and be smiling.

So if a push-up bra helps the cause, so be it. If us guys can only get the babes under 30 to realize that we want to see no matter what's doing..................

Glad She Lost The Weight

Over all my years of thorough viewing and watching of babes, I've been amazed at how a significant weight loss impacts their confidence in different ways. Sometimes a babe will want to stay covered even after losing a lot of weight, and other times I have seen just the opposite.

A few years ago, there was an overweight babe living across the street in one of the apartments I could easily see into with my binoculars. Unlike a lot of guys, I like some meat on the bones, and have spoken highly of some babes that other guys found to be "heavy set", "fat", or other such terms. To me, as long as they are proportionate I'm fine with it. As long as the boobs are greater than, or at the very least equal to, the tummy and the butt area isn't huge compared to the legs, and there are curves, I'm usually fine with it if her face and hair are attractive.

This particular babe did not appeal to me when I first checked her out. A couple of mounds of flab hanging out that took up more room than her boobs. I only saw the boobies once when she had her robe partially open and quickly closed it even though she had no idea anyone could see her. Never did see her butt or bush early on, but I wasn't that interested. Frankly, I would check her apartment to see if she had any cute guests walking around, but the few times she did over the first few months, there was no changing of clothes.

Evidently she started working out or doing something to lose weight, as about six months after she moved in I noticed she was losing those mounds of flab. I saw her a couple of times outside walking in from her car, and she began looking better and better. Her butt area stayed big, but her top half definitely had thinned down and she was looking a lot better. Eventually, she started walking around wearing less on top and I started to watch her more, although she always kept her bottom half covered up. I could tell she felt the need to lose pounds off the bottom.

A couple of weeks ago, a woman I know through a work situation was at a celebration of a co-worker's birthday, and one of them asked me to take some photos. This woman had told some of us that she had lost more than 60 pounds over the past 9 months. To be honest, she still had more to lose, but was looking better to me. She said that she did not wish to be photographed. That's my point. Even though she looked better and felt better with a large weight loss, she seemed so used to not wanting to be photographed.

Yet, some babes react the other way after a weight loss. Earlier this month while on a travel assignment lasting into a weekend, I went to a nude beach I hadn't been to in years. It turns out there weren't too many decent babes there, but there were enough to make it worth my while to stay. Since I was by myself and there were some guys there with women, I had to get naked and go in to the water in order to be able to scope the decent babes from closer in. (I'm always fine with that trade off. They don't care to look at me, and since I'm naked they won't suspect I'm checking them out through my dark sunglasses.)

After I got past most of the decent babes while going into and then out of the water, I noticed a group of three overweight women, all seemingly around 30 or less, that were in the shallow water standing and chatting, each totally naked. I was standing on the beach, near where other people were, and was looking over there. One of them was clearly standing with her back facing where most of the people were. We could see her big butt and flab hanging elsewhere, and it sure didn't bother me that I couldn't see her front. The second woman was standing facing out to the water, and was slightly sideways so that not much could be seen even though she was naked.

But it was the third woman that inspired this commentary. It was easy to tell that she has recently lost a lot of weight in her upper half. Her boobs were well rounded and hung in such a way that I could tell she used to weigh a lot more, but now was very proportionate. Her hair was nice and long, and her face actually quite pretty. Yet, her hips jetted out and her legs were rather thick. From the belly button up she was looking very hot, but below that point had a lot of poundage.

I'm sure a lot of guys would not bother to stare, letting the big hips and thick legs cause them to look elsewhere. But not me. She was quite attractive to me. Part of the reason was how she was standing. It was easy to tell she was confident. Those other two overweight women she was talking with were somewhat slouched over and clearly didn't want their goods showing. (And I didn't care to see them anyway.)

Based on my observations of babes all these years and her body language, she knew exactly what she wanted to have happen. She was feeling proud of her better body and not worried about the lower regions and her legs. (She was only in the water up to her knees.) I say this because she was obviously standing and facing where the people, especially the guys, could see her straight on full frontal, and she wasn't wearing a thing with the sun shining brightly on her. Her body language said "Check me out all you want!". So I did. She might have even noticed that I was enjoying the view, but it wouldn't have mattered. She wanted every guy within range to see all she had. Heck, I might have made her day by looking at her in all her glory and not turning away, like I would have if either of her flabby friends had been facing me.

She probably dragged her friends to a nude beach so she could stand there naked and hope the guys would "finally" start to notice her. I know I did.
There have been a few other instances, both while spying with binoculars and out in public, where I have noticed babes who have lost weight seem more willing to let it show and let the guys enjoy them. (Or, if at home, use the private moments to get used to letting it show.) I'm glad when they do!

Babe Sprays Breast Milk At Cop

To me it's another reason to allow babes to breast feed in public. If she could have done so, this babe would probably not have been put into this situation resulting her reportedly whipping out a boob and spraying a cop with her milk:

http://www.10tv.com/live/content/local/stories/2011/06/27/story-delaware-woman-accused-spraying-deputies-breast-milk.html?sid=102

Guys, what do you think?

a pregnant pause

I have had some letters from guys over the past couple of years about checking out pregnant babes, but the guy in this news story seems to have taken it to another extreme:


http://www.wavy.com/dpp/news/local_news/va_beach/police-arrest-vb-peeping-tom


It's tough to determine why the guy wanted to see her naked while at full pregnancy and to go to that extent to do so. My only guess is that the babe must have smaller boobs (not his preference) and he figured this was his chance to see them at their best. Of course, that doesn't make what he did right.

The story also reports that he had also videotaped her the day before. I'm thinking he must not have gotten a good shot of her if he went back again the next day. This means that if he did get a good shot of her naked the day before, he would have gotten away with it had he not gone back the very next day.

This one is tough since he was a direct neighbor.

Some guys actually do not enjoy seeing pregnant babes naked all that much, based on the e-mails and comments I have received from guys since my book came out, and from what I know while talking to friends about it over the years.

Personally, I'll admit I wasn't much for it while in my teens and 20's, but over the past 20+ years I have come to appreciate and enjoy the pregnant naked body just as much. It usually does mean better boobage. Of course, during the couple of times I have been able to spy on pregnant babes while at home, it gets difficult to see bush while she is in the later stage because of the hang of the tummy. That is both while walking around or when seated. But it's a nice trade off due to the increased boobage.

However, I don't know the age of the guys who e-mailed me about it, and I'd like to know more about if it is guys over 30 who enjoy seeing pregnant babes naked moreso than 20's or teens. Any thoughts, guys?

(And don't worry, I won't use any names. Just your age and your comments, with your permission.)

Asking Laura Hamilton To Relax

Sorry to read (below) that Laura Hamilton is "petrified" about a wardrobe malfunction. I can tell you it would help her career and name recognition tremendously if that were to happen.......


http://www.unrealitytv.co.uk/dancing-on-ice/dancing-on-ice-laura-hamiltons-costumes-are-reinforced-to-contain-her-28ff-boobs/

Total Creep in control of the situation

Cliff C. of PA writes:

“I’m not sure I fully believe that you maintain your control every time and have not approached or let the (babe) know what you saw. I would love to know, if you really do, how you do that. Yesterday afternoon I was blessed to be walking past a hot young mom who was tending to her toddler in a stroller. Taking your expert advice, I timed walking by just as she was leaning very forward, and as luck had it there was no bra, and I saw nipples. I must admit I was so pleased that I said “Nice view” after I passed by. She looked up and said “damn you” or something to that effect. I kept on walking and nothing further came of it. She wasn’t about to leave her kid. I am sorry I did that, and know it was wrong to tell her, but I couldn’t help it. How do you really do that?”


Well, Cliff, it’s probably to your surprise, but I will address this matter. Sure, there are times it is very tempting to get out of control over some totally hot babe letting it show. Nice job following my advice, until you got your great view and then spoiled the moment. You (and others) need to stay in control and act like you didn’t see a thing, no matter how challenging. Your action yesterday will ruin it for other guys. There are so few babes, compared with years past, who still go out braless. I would bet you any amount that the one you did this to will never leave home without a bra on again. We can’t afford to “lose” any more.

You need to maintain your composure during and after seeing something like you did, in this case some great boobage. Had you kept quiet like you should have, this babe would be out there again today without a bra and no clue that guys can see all she has when she cares for the kid. That is what inspires me. It’s not only keeping from being nabbed, busted, or arrested (or even beaten if her significant other is near), it is keeping more opportunities open. I am as obsessed as any other guy with seeing as many babes as I possibly can naked or as close to it as possible, even the same ones over and over if possible. If they were to find out from me, I would not only fear trouble from authorities, but it would reduce the field of possibilities. Those are both serious enough to keep me quiet. It takes training, but unless you don’t care to continue checking out the babes (and I can’t imagine that), you need to work at it.

Maintaining composure also applies even when the babe does know. You might go back to my book or audio book (“ Total Creep – A Guy’s Guide “) and re-read the chapter “They Know I Saw”. It describes several true incidents, including one where the babe and her guy both knew I saw a full boob “by accident”. I maintained a straight face, leaving them a bit uncertain. Any babe would expect a guy who “really” saw her boob in public to be smiling, thanking her, or whatever. You can’t do that.

I will admit there have been times over the years I have been very tempted and have come close to making a mistake. I truly do understand the temptation, and even your reaction yesterday. These times are not covered in my book (at least my first one). Fortunately, I was able to talk myself out of it in time. One such “near incident” was several years ago in a Midwest city. I was getting ready to leave the apartment I was renting at the time, but noticed the light was on, and drapes open, in the apartment of a babe I would check out who lived across the street from me. I grabbed the binoculars and there she was carrying clothes while walking in to the room. She put them down on the chair, and it turned out she was stark naked. She then picked up her jeans and pulled them up, following that by putting on just a top. Next, she went and put on her jacket, grabbed her purse, and headed out toward the front door.

The jeans were dark blue, and the top she put on was not open or low cut, and not even see-through. However, this meant that she was going out with absolutely NO underwear on whatsoever. That is my “weakness” when it comes to checking out the babes. To me there is nothing that excites me as much as a babe out in public with no underwear on.

Since I was also about to leave, and knew her parking space, I actually did grab my keys and went downstairs, feeling totally excited about what I just saw and what I knew. I got out the door and actually took a few steps toward her parking space, thinking I would say something like “Oh wow, no underwear!!” to her. Fortunately, the voice of reason in my head told me, “If I do this, I would lose the opportunity to see her naked again, and she could tell her neighbors and even people in my building. I can’t let that happen.” Had I done so, she would have known that I was spying on her. Her clothes were not revealing, and her having a jacket on would have prevented me from seeing bouncing boobies.

Along with that, I will admit that I once got away with a true peeping tom incident (over 30 years ago), convincing myself right afterward that it would be a one-time thing and not worth risking spying and everything else I do in pursuit of seeing babes naked. Even with my anxiety that night, I was extremely careful about not leaving a trace. There was a babe living alone in a first floor apartment that I could not see into from where I was living at the time. One night after dark I (really was) walking back from a local errand, and noticed from the sidewalk that her bathroom light was on, and that her bedroom blinds were open slightly and pointed down. Even though there was a lawn, there was a concrete slab behind the bushes under her window.

I looked around and there was no one else walking on either side of the street, and no cars coming. Just as I was up near the bushes, I saw her bathroom light go dark. I was on that concrete slab, boosted up on her window ledge, and was hanging high enough to see into the bottom part of the blinds. Success – she was sitting on her bed with panties on but topless and was toweling off her hair. I enjoyed the boobs view for maybe 10 seconds, then lowered myself to the ground and snuck away, making sure there were no footprints, and that there was still no one around. (If someone was nearby I could have stayed behind the bushes until they passed.)

That was more than 30 years ago, and I never did that again, no matter how tempting it gets. I think of it as “quantity vs. quality”. No matter how hot a babe is, it isn’t worth giving up seeing hundreds more babes naked for one moment.

So to address your question, yes, I have been tempted. And I have done wrong. But I’m still doing what I do, and by the methods that I know will work safely if done properly. Please keep this in mind on your walk today, OK?

Why guys need a lunch break every day.......

Don of PA writes:

“My co-workers and I owe you a round of thanks. Your book is so amazing about how us guys miss out on great opportunities all around. There is this hot little blonde waitress at Crystal’s in downtown Pittsburgh all summer wearing a lot of low cut and open tops. Even though she wears a bra, she has no idea of how much boob shows when she leans over to serve or pick up from our table. Or if she does know, it doesn’t bother her. We don’t care either way. The guys and I have been lunching there for months, and it wasn’t until I heard your book that I started to notice her.

Then I went ahead and told the other guys in the group. Now we are regulars there, and we know to ask for things so she keeps having to come by our table and lean over. We can’t see nipple, but we have all enjoyed the view all the way down her loose fitting bra. Definitely gets us all through the work day!! It’s worth the extra tip money to keep her excellent “service” coming our way. You’re the best!”

Chad of AZ writes:


“It took me several tries, but I finally see what you mean about checking down their tops even when you can tell they are wearing a bra. You were right! This totally hot college chick came into the store I work at last night. When she was leaning over to sign her charge form, her bra was so loose fitting that I could see some pink on top. I’m not sure if it was a flat nipple or that was as far as I could see, but if it hadn’t been for your book and your blog, I wouldn’t have known to be watching. And absolutely no one suspected me of looking, since I was conducting business as usual. You can publish this if you want, but the more important thing is to keep alerting guys about this.”

Thanks Don and Chad for the nice words. That’s the whole idea. As much as I would love to be everywhere a cute babe has something showing, I can’t be. Interesting that you both bring up something I have noticed more and more lately. Bras don’t seem to be as tight fitting as they once were. Maybe it is because we see them more and more. But more and more babes go out in public thinking their bra always covers up more than it really does.

There are 2 aspects to this to keep in mind. One is that the loose fitting applies more to the upper part of the boobs. When looking down a blouse or top going down from the shoulder, more and more bras are loose and you can see more of the top of a boob. In addition, many bras are lower cut on the inside and allow more skin to be open. I have noticed this more and more within the past year when looking in between the button holes of a shirt or blouse. It isn’t always bra anymore. More often I’m seeing skin until the bra takes over just before the nipple.

In addition, a lot more of the college age babes wear athletic bras under a shirt or top when out and about. They don’t realize that these are not tight and when the lean over you can see a good percentage of one or both boobs, depending on your angle.

Remember, guys, not to give up on looking just because she has a regular bra or an athletic bra on. The fit might not be what she thinks it is. Some boob is certainly better than no boobage at all. Even though I still prefer the era of the 70’s, 80’s, and 90’s when more babes would not wear a bra at all. We wouldn’t get to see as much boobage, but would get to see nipple action much more often.

Thanks for writing! Feel free to send your Total Creep questions and comments to me, and let me know if it is OK to publish.

Maybe underwear is sexy - at times.......

Barry G. of MI writes:

“I can understand your complaints about more chicks wearing underwear than they used to, but I often find it sexy to see a lace bra or panties sticking out. It is better than nothing, even if it’s not seeing the entire (boob).”


Actually, Barry, I partially agree with you. This is an interesting debate, and I would love for more guys to weigh in on this. Back in the 70’s, 80’s, and most of the 90’s, a percentage of babes would go out in public not wearing a bra at all some or all of the time. Thus, if you knew what you were doing (and therefore the premise for my book), you would be able to see nipples when babes would bend over, wear a loose fitting sleeveless top, be seated with a loose top on, and other such techniques.

These days, with tops generally more revealing, it seems like 99% or higher wear a bra. Granted, some of the bras are lower cut and looser fitting than years go by, but seeing nipple is becoming a thing of the past. Being old enough and doing this for so long, I’m used to seeing more nipples than I have in the past few years, so to me it is a complaint. You younger guys don’t know what you are missing out on!

Same thing with panties. With shorts and skirts being much shorter, there is more opportunity to see up into panties. Even though in the past only a very small percentage of babes might not wear any when out in public, that percentage has also dropped. (But not the panties, if I may say so as a total creep!).

This becomes the “quantity vs. quality” discussion. You can see more skin on many more babes than you used to while out in public, especially in many professional environments. However, you see way fewer nipples and hardly ever score a bush sighting in public. (Butt crack sightings are way above what they ever were with the wonderful invention of low-rise jeans and shorter tops, so that is one positive over the past few years.)

However, on your point about underwear, I won’t totally disagree. Just this morning on my way to a business meeting I had a perfect example of this. I spotted a babe walking ahead of me in a mid-length skirt, and knew that at the end of the block she would need to walk up a flight of stairs. Since there were no other hotties within my view, I decided to slow down and continue walking behind her. (I also was going up those stairs.) Obviously, I checked her for panty lines and could tell she had full panties on instead of a thong. I could also see the top panty line, and it so happened to be hanging down quite nicely. Even though this was a thin skirt, it was not see through, but I could tell that the top of her panties were down along her butt crack as she walked. I found that to be quite sexy, just as you state. That if that skirt were to come all the way up, I would see butt crack sticking out at the top. It was a nice view for the few hundred feet until she went up the stairs. Even though I could only see the very bottom of those panties, I found her to be quite sexy.

Let’s see what some of you guys think about this!

Why he saw his sister's boob.........

The readers, and sometimes relatives of readers and listeners to "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" continue to e-mail me at ic.london at live.com:


Carrie G. of OH writes:
“My younger brother came home from college and had heard your audio book. That is his decision, but it’s how I found out that has me freaked out. He told me that he saw one of my (boobs) last night while we were out at dinner, and he was concerned because he knew I wouldn’t like other guys being able to see them too. After we got home, he showed me in private how he did that, and then told me all about your book and how other guys do the same thing. I must say I was shocked. This was maybe the 3rd time all year I went out without a bra, since we are having this heatwave. He was able to look down my open sleeve and convinced me he saw nipple. I can’t believe you would do this to women. I take it you do not have a sister? Or a female cousin? Is your family a bunch of nudists? Why do you do this?”


As I continue to explain, I was not the first guy to check out the babes. It has nothing to do with my family or personal life, thank you. Since you resent what your brother saw this much, I would say that he did you a major favor. It looks like you will take additional steps to prevent guys from seeing your boobs from here on. Heck, I should be on your brother’s case for ruining the opportunity.

After all, I didn’t tell you not to wear a bra, and then wear a sleeveless top which sometimes gives guys a full view. If your brother wasn’t interested in seeing, he wouldn’t have listened to my audio book. Him, me, and plenty of other guys. Again, I’m here to tell you that the bro did you a favor by telling you. Maybe he didn’t have to go into detail about what he saw, but it obviously drove the point across. I’m not sure too many brothers would do that to a sister, or even care to see her boobs. But guys will be guys.

Frankly, I have been amazed over the years at the number of babes who wear sleeveless or open sleeve tops and don’t think guys can see down when they get the right angle. But I’m glad they do.

Megan doesn't like me

Megan of TX writes:

“You’ll never publish this but I give you permission. There should be laws against you. How dare you encourage guys to spy on women in the privacy of their own home? How would you feel if you were naked in a personal and private moment and noticed a group of people watching your every move? Your book and your blog totally disgust me, and I’m sure you get notes from other women feeling the same way.

If I ever catch you or someone that disgusting trying to look down my shirt or into my condo I will get a lawyer and womens groups and go after you until you can’t afford to keep your own binoculars. I don’t believe you are married. You probably haven’t had a single date in your adult life and trying to see some boobs is all you can do to have a woman in your life. Then I read your support of a letter from some nerd who described watching a young lady in a very private intimate moment. You should have that guy sent away, and then follow him there.”


Since you gave me permission, Megan, I am publishing your entire comments. Sorry you don’t believe that I really am married and have had dates and girlfriends over the years as much as most guys. Don’t make assumptions based on your emotions.

Like I have said before, my target audience is straight guys of all ages. I never forced any of them to purchase my audio book or to use any of the ideas and true personal experiences I have had on their own. All I did was notice how many guys miss out on opportunities to see the body parts of women and provide them with some tips. The next time you are in a busy area and see a young hottie walking around with her blouse open, take a look at the guys nearby. Watch how many guys will stare her down as the walks by. Some with their eyes bulging out and a smile on their faces. Guys have and will do that whether they know of my audio book or not. My book does not tell them to do this sort of thing. It tells them HOW to do it.

Truthfully, I know (and so do the guys) that watching babes through binoculars while they are in private is not morally proper. What they don’t know won’t hurt them. That doesn’t make it OK to do. I understand your dislike of me, but I’m one of the few men open enough to admit that I do these things and the only one to provide tips to other guys who also enjoy doing this. If you choose to keep your body totally covered at all times in public and keep the shades or curtains closed while you are at home, you won’t have these worries. See you at the beach!

Sizing up his girlfriend

Greg G. of TN writes:

"My girlfriend and I were walking to her car when a chick who was jogging along was coming toward us. As good fortune had it, one of her (boobs) popped out from her bra top. She was pretty quick about covering up, but I got to see nipple action. However, my girlfriend also saw and quickly looked over at me to, I suppose, see my reaction. What she saw was my eyes wide open and an obvious smile on my face, leaving her with no doubt that I saw and enjoyed it. It's as if I was busted. She got upset and we spent the rest of our walk arguing before I took her home earlier than planned. It's not like I could deny that I saw and enjoyed it. I was explaining that I had no control over that happening, and that as a guy of course I would enjoy that. But I wasn't with that chick. I was "with" her. I'm not sure what else I could have said or done to make the situation better. You will probably say I should have kept a straight face and played it down, but I can't help how I reacted. (You can tell I listened to your book!) I think my GF reacted that harshly because she has much smaller (boobs) than the jogger. Do you think that's why?"

It well could be, Greg. Some babes with smaller boobies are very sensitive about guys liking bigger ones. I recall a girlfriend of mine years back who several times commented about how her sister "has all of the family boobs". (That sister sure did, since I was fortunate enough to also see hers on one wonderful occasion, but I digress.) But as I wrote in my Total Creep book, the most important thing is to always (and I mean, always) act like you don't care around babes in your life, especially a girlfriend or wife.

The times my then-girlfriend made those comments I would remain calm, and maybe throw in a "I'm happy with everything about you", or "It doesn't matter to me". While in my mind I was waiting for her sister to come into the room so I could keep an eye on those puppies.

So, yes, I'm telling you to maintain a straight face, or at the very least, your composure. I know it's not easy, but use the threat of losing your girlfriend (if you care enough) as an incentive. Be ready in case you get a lucky break like that again. Even if it is obvious you saw, the important part to your woman is how you handle it.

My suggestion would have been a simple "How embarassing!" or "No wonder she is running so fast!", and move on. No matter how nice the boob was, just don't let on how much you enjoyed it.

And if your girlfriend has gotten over it and things are fine, I would say that the next few times you are in bed with her, spend some extra time on her boobs. Make her feel more secure about them, and you'll be fine.

Again, part of my secret to success is that seeing the hundreds of babes and body parts that I see help me when it comes to making love to my wife, since I am even more excited from what I saw earlier in the day. Keep that in mind as well. Oh, and let me know where that walking path is!

Keeping Barry abreast........

Barry of NJ writes:

"I also loved your book and learned a lot. You are so right about guys missing opportunities by not paying attention. I saw some good stuff right away that I would have missed without your help.

Just curious, though. You mentioned that you like all (breast) sizes. I thought every guy liked big ones a lot better, and that when it comes to (boobs) size matters. Do you really feel that way? Or is it because you want to enjoy what you see every day?"


Not exactly a book related question, Barry, but I'll answer it anyway. I tried to stay away from my personal preferences as much as possible when writing the book. However, I felt it important to reveal that I enjoy boobs of all shapes and sizes for a couple of reasons.

First, I do know that not every guy prefers the biggest ones. Some guys I have talked with fear that many of the 'big ones' are not natural, and they prefer natural. The smaller-boobed babes are most likely natural.

For the purpose of my Total Creep book, I wasn't about to focus on only the large sizes. The idea is that guys can enjoy all shapes and sizes. If you prefer big boobs, but can see a small chested babe walking topless, my hunch is that you would not turn away!

Second, big boobs can be tough for seeing nipples in public. When babes are not wearing a bra (which, unfortunately is all too rare these days), it is the smaller boobs that are more easily seen all the way down. I have enjoyed many a big boobed babe leaning over, but because there is so much boobage it can be tough to see nipple. Whereas a small breasted babe can lean over not as far and nipple action is there for the viewing.

Finally, I must admit that I also prefered the bigger ones much more when in my teens, 20's, and into my 30's. In the last 20 years I have come to appreciate smaller and medium ones a lot more. These days, I continue to enjoy the variety.

In fact, since writing the book, I have noticed that there are some flat or small chested babes that are more willing to wear see-through and lower cut tops than they used to. It's as if they decided to "fight" the big boobed babes by calling attention to what little they have by being more willing to let guys know what the nipples look like. Just a theory, however.

My book was not written only for guys who like big ones. It's for all guys to enjoy whatever sized boobs they like the most, and whenever possible.

Good question!!



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Remembering the first time

Cindy C. of Maryland writes:

"Please be assured that I did not and do not plan to read your book. But unlike a lot of women if some jerk sees my boobs I realize it is not the end of the world. But I asked my boyfriend about your book and creeps like you, and he told me that a lot of guys are like this. He even told me how he remembers the first time he ever saw a girl naked and claims a lot of guys recall that, right there with their first love. Why is seeing a naked girl such a big deal?"

Thanks for writing, Cindy, and thanks for being so level headed. My short is answer is that I don't know. It's a guy thing. It starts in grammar school or no later than high school and in many cases it never stops. And for guys who saw a naked babe for the first time prior to and separate from it being their first sexual experience with a girl, they tend to remember both.

In my case, these were separate experiences, and even though they happened more than 30 years ago, I still remember both. Actually, I may be extreme, as I have 3 such very clear memories of a "first time".

While writing my book, "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide", it got me thinking about what could have happened that still has me thinking like a 14 year old boy even as I hit 50 years old. I do think that childhood experiences have influenced my thinking in some respects. My first 3 times seeing female nudity in person were all "components". (Magazines don't count - I'm talking in person.) Let me explain.

My first time ever happened during lunch hour when I was in 8th grade. A group of guys were hanging around in the school yard when a 20-something woman that we knew was mentally challenged but had a nice body was walking by toward her home down the block. We were commenting that she looked really good when she obviously heard us and came over in our direction. One of the guys, who was a bit of a troublemaker, came right out and asked if she would take off her top, and she said no. Then another pulled out some coins and tossed one at her. She reached over and picked it up. Then, as if on cue, all of us guys reached in and pulled out money and handed it to her. We practically had her surrounded and even though we were in the school yard, it would have been difficult for anyone else to see her in the center of our group.

She then pulled up her sweater, unhooked her bra, and stood there with her boobs exposed for about 20 seconds while the group of hormonal boys shrieked with joy. Then she put her bra in her purse, put her sweater back on, and walked away. That was my first time seeing live boobs, and I got a good look and enjoyed it as much as any of the other classmates.

A couple months after that, a classmate invited me and a couple of other guys over on a day off from school during the spring. He told us we could get a show. We arrived and he told us to be very quiet as we snuck into his family's garage. That we couldn't make a sound. We listened. Sure enough, we got out there, went to the side window in the garage, and could see into the yard next door. There was a woman probably in her 40's but she was laying out on a towel and was topless. Finally, she turned around and we all got to see her boobs for a few minutes. That didn't turn me on as much as the other guys because she seemed so old. But again, I didn't see her totally naked.

My book details my first time seeing a live vagina, which was shortly after I started using my binoculars and saw a neighbor college girl spread her legs in her kitchen while wearing a nightie. Then with the binoculars I saw a couple of other girls private parts, although not always at the time time, before my first sexual experience with a girlfriend.

While I remember these experiences clearly (and know that many other guys remember theirs too), I am convinced that these stories from long ago continue to have an impact on me today.

Even when I began having sexual encounters with my first girlfriend, I remember how thrilled I was to see her boobs, but how she turned the lights off so it took me a couple of encounters before I finally saw her vagina up close.

The point is that my early experiences with in person female nudity were "components", and how I was fine with that. And even today, I often have to make decisions on whether to try and see the top or the bottom, and how seeing even one of the body parts pleases me.

But there is more. When I began having sex, having my girlfriend with me and being naked added to my excitement of being with her because here was a girl naked because of me and wanting me to see and touch her. To my way of thinking, seeing other babes' bodies added to my excitement level.

That was all more than 30 years ago.

Even now, years after being married, I still find that seeing body parts of other babes adds to my excitement level when I am enjoying my wife sexually. I could see where you, Cindy, and other women might consider my looking down a tank top or the low rise jeans of a 20-something babe as a form of cheating on my wife. Personally, I don't, because as much as I enjoy seeing as many of the female bodies as I possibly can, I am not looking to replace my wife or have sex (or any involvement for that matter) with another woman.

My wife doesn't know I check out babes to the extent that I do, and she wouldn't like it either. I understand that. But she also doesn't know how my having done this since we have been together has enhanced our physical well being. I think she would make that "trade off" if she were given the choice.

So, yes, Cindy, you will find that guys remember seeing their first naked girl along with the first sexual encounter if different. The effect is long lasting.

Oh, and keep those boobs available. It might make some creepy guy's day!

Readers (and sometimes non-readers) of " Total Creep - A Guy's Guide " can write me with comments and questions at ic.london at live.com.

The Total Creep and the bra

J.P. of Baltimore asks:

“I think your (audio book) is great. But why is seeing her bra such a big deal? These days you can look at ads in the newspaper and see a babe in her bra or less.”

Yes, the ads have gotten better over the years. But back to your serious question. While I’m not happy that a larger percentage of babes wear a bra compared with the 70’s and 80’s, at least these days there are important variations with bras for us total creeps.

Some babes prefer a sports bra or an extra undershirt or tank top instead of a bra. This gives us a much better view when they are bending over and when seated at an angle you can see down her top. When each breast is not individually covered you can sometimes see at least one entire boob even if you don’t see nipple.

In addition, some bras have a loose fit and babes don’t realize that they could have some give and allow us to see much more than they realize. I have seen all the way to the nipple in a loose fitting bra. Several times I have seen all the way down on the inside even if not seeing nipple.

Actually, as coincidence has it, just today during my lunch break I was walking through a food court and eyed a cutie with a loose tank stop sitting and eating. As I walked past her slowly and took my look down her top while she was leaning up for another bite, it turned out she had a regular bra on (not a sports bra). Yet, I saw almost all the way down. Her boobs were slightly bigger than I thought but it turned out her bra was even larger. I’m certain she had no clue that anything could be seen.

At my level of expertise, and as nice as it was to get such a nice glance, I was disappointed in my abilities because I didn’t realize her boobs were that big. I would have angled my walk a bit more to get more of a side glance instead of almost straight down. But for my total creep guys in training (my readers/listeners), it’s more important to keep trying. Yes, there are many times when all I see is bra (that I could see elsewhere). But the times such as today or seeing most or all of what is under that bra make it all worthwhile.

Readers (and listeners to the Audio Book) of “ Total Creep – A Guy’s Guide “ know that spend most of a chapter about getting the best angles and views when looking down a babe’s top, even when you know she has a regular bra on. You can see more doing this than in any newspaper!