What Makes Women More Confident?

A most interesting article about female confidence...........

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2117576/Push-bras-make-women-75-confident-says-study.html   

Although I would have loved to help with this research, these findings fit in with what I have noticed over the past 30+ years of spying on babes in the privacy of their homes.

I have noticed, and wrote about this in my most recent book (Total Creep - A Guy's Guide), how easy it is to tell how confident a woman is by how she carries herself fully or partially naked, even in private.

What is interesting to me is that it is not necessarily how well, or how poorly, she is built. I have observed some petite babes who have kept covered up at all times even when home alone, as well as some chubby babes who walk around naked with total confidence.

I have observed some babes who would sometimes walk around at home with little to nothing on, but appear slouched over or with their shoulders clenched as if to signal they don't like their boobs. This is with no one around and they obviously have no idea that a man is watching them. With others, even when naked, I can tell if they are happier with their boobs than their butt or vice versa.

Even in public, I have seen babes display differing levels of confidence based on their body parts. At one of the naked bike rides I was a spectator at, I remember one babe peddling along totally naked even though one boob was smaller and even hung lower than the other. Not the prettiest set of boobs (although it did not deter me from looking), and she was not shaved further down, but she rode that way and was smiling during the time I saw her. Yet, there were a couple of other babes nearby with much nicer bodies, yet one of them had a bra top on while another was only topless.

But the babe with the "bad" boobies was confident enough to show herself in full on a downtown street during daylight and be smiling.

So if a push-up bra helps the cause, so be it. If us guys can only get the babes under 30 to realize that we want to see no matter what's doing..................

It's Plane To See

It's another reason I'm always on the lookout to see what I can see. The other night I was on an airplane and had the window seat. In the middle seat of the row in front of me sat a young hottie wearing a loose fitting top. I was hoping that when the plane landed I could get up before she did and get a nice look. She was with her man, who was sitting next to her on the aisle seat and they were chatting away.

But it turns out I didn't have to wait that long. About half way through the flight, they appeared to stop talking. The babe then reclined her seat. Normally, that is annoying as many of you know. Not in this case.

The passenger in front of me had not reclined. Thus, when this babe did, there was a wide gap enabling me to see in between. And as she reclined on the seat, it turned out I could see down her top. The guy in the seat next to me had dozed off, and the woman on the aisle was reading. So the coast was clear.

I was able to lean forward and get an extended look. However, she was wearing a tight fitting bra, and it was one that separates and covered up some of the middle area between her boobs. (If only it was a loose fitting bra or sports bra. I would have had a major look right down the middle.)

Granted, seeing a bra shot isn't that big of a deal. But finding out that if a passenger to one side in front of me reclines and is wearing a loose fitting and/or lower cut top I can see down is still another helpful discovery.

Thought I'd pass that along. As I continue to point out, it helps to pay attention to any and every babe nearby.

Isla Fisher Pops A Button

We don't get to see nipple, but it's wonderful to be made aware of a woman not wearing a bra when it's not even a revealing dress.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2033050/Isla-Fisher-flails-films-drunk-scene-Bachelorette-star-Kirsten-Dunst.html?ito=feeds-newsxml 

Scroll down to the 4th photo and you'll see what happened during the scene Isla Fisher was filming. Granted, she doesn't look very hot and actually looks older in the scene, but that's not important to me for the sake of this example.

Us guys need the hope that more women, especially the younger ones, will start going without a bra once again. This is such a welcome change from seemingly endless straps hanging out and undershirts, tank tops, and half of a wardrobe underneath a shirt.

In fact, just this morning I noticed a babe that lives a couple of homes down the street (on the other side of the street) from where I'm staying this weekend come out to water the lawn. She was wearing a white undershirt and shorts. So I went and grabbed my binoculars. She was just outside of her home on a relatively quiet side street. However, when I got a closer look, I could immediately tell she was wearing a bra. Even walking around the house. Her shorts weren't even short enough to get a nice look when she bent over. But, geez, she must be walking around the house wearing a bra. This is what it is coming to.

So, guys, let's give credit to Isla Fisher, and let the babes we know think she's a trend setter! 

Seeing her bra isn't so difficult

Chris M. of OH writes:

“I enjoyed your Audio Book, but mainly the parts about spying on girls from home. I think the chapters about all you do just to see down a shirt are overstated. Maybe years ago that was what you had to do, but now I can walk down the street and see a bra all the time. Same with butt crack. Why is this such a big deal? I wish you had gone into more detail about places to spy on girls instead. You are definitely on to something.”

Thanks for the feedback and the question, Chris. I must admit I do see your point. The book was written based on more than 30 years of practice at doing what I do. During the 70’s and 80’s things were different, indeed. Back when tops were less revealing, there was a different game plan since a percentage of babes would not be wearing a bra. Some of my advice and experience deals with that scenario, which is different than today’s.

However, I will defend myself regarding low rise pants and skirts. It is true that us guys are blessed with some blatant butt crack showings when babes are seated and don’t realize or don’t care that we can see. Yet, there are numerous instances where it takes the extra effort I preach about it to see even more. Whereas my tips and experience from years ago used to go toward seeing boobs, it now applies more toward butt crack. (I realize that seeing butt crack doesn’t hold the same value as seeing boobs, but we have to take advantage of opportunities.)

So hang on to those CD’s with the Audio Book, Chris. Fashions do change. I, for one, am hopeful that we will see a return to styles that allow babes to not wear a bra like it was until a few years ago.

Meanwhile, the long chapters about spying on babes from home or office go into tremendous detail. You are correct, that will remain a constant. I must say the only change I have seen to this is an ironic one. A few of the babes I have spyed on in the past couple of years often have more covered up walking around the kitchen than they did when they were outside. But others make up for that when they walk around in underwear, since bras and panties cover less than they did years ago.

Readers and listeners of " Total Creep - A Guy's Guide " are encouraged to e-mail me with comments and questions at ic.london at live.com.

The book is available at http://www.TotalCreep.com .

The Total Creep and the bra

J.P. of Baltimore asks:

“I think your (audio book) is great. But why is seeing her bra such a big deal? These days you can look at ads in the newspaper and see a babe in her bra or less.”

Yes, the ads have gotten better over the years. But back to your serious question. While I’m not happy that a larger percentage of babes wear a bra compared with the 70’s and 80’s, at least these days there are important variations with bras for us total creeps.

Some babes prefer a sports bra or an extra undershirt or tank top instead of a bra. This gives us a much better view when they are bending over and when seated at an angle you can see down her top. When each breast is not individually covered you can sometimes see at least one entire boob even if you don’t see nipple.

In addition, some bras have a loose fit and babes don’t realize that they could have some give and allow us to see much more than they realize. I have seen all the way to the nipple in a loose fitting bra. Several times I have seen all the way down on the inside even if not seeing nipple.

Actually, as coincidence has it, just today during my lunch break I was walking through a food court and eyed a cutie with a loose tank stop sitting and eating. As I walked past her slowly and took my look down her top while she was leaning up for another bite, it turned out she had a regular bra on (not a sports bra). Yet, I saw almost all the way down. Her boobs were slightly bigger than I thought but it turned out her bra was even larger. I’m certain she had no clue that anything could be seen.

At my level of expertise, and as nice as it was to get such a nice glance, I was disappointed in my abilities because I didn’t realize her boobs were that big. I would have angled my walk a bit more to get more of a side glance instead of almost straight down. But for my total creep guys in training (my readers/listeners), it’s more important to keep trying. Yes, there are many times when all I see is bra (that I could see elsewhere). But the times such as today or seeing most or all of what is under that bra make it all worthwhile.

Readers (and listeners to the Audio Book) of “ Total Creep – A Guy’s Guide “ know that spend most of a chapter about getting the best angles and views when looking down a babe’s top, even when you know she has a regular bra on. You can see more doing this than in any newspaper!

Oh brother - what a view

Glad to be of service on this one. Mike of Ohio, a listener to my Audio Book of " Total Creep - A Guy's Guide " had written me back in February about my comments on seeing the goods on friends and family members' girlfriends or wives.

http://thetotalcreep.blogspot.com/2009/02/more-readers-write_23.html


And this morning, Mike wrote me back:

"You were so right! Thanks for the encouragement when I wrote you a few weeks back. Guess I shouldn't question the 'total creep' of them all!

My younger brother is still going with a very hot chick, and it is now to the point where we are double dating. The first time we hung out for a while at her (brother's girlfriend) condo, she did not have an open collar but it didn't look as though she was wearing a bra at home.

Sure enough, on Saturday, my gal and I were hanging with my brother and her at her place watching the basketball game. This time she had an open collar shirt on and I could see her (boobs) bounce as she walked around. At half time, she served some snacks and I was walking over toward the table to sit down. As good fortune had it, she dropped a bag of chips and was bending over to pick them up. She was bending in my direction. Sure enough, I got a glance all the way down. I'm thinking she feels comfortable enough with me around, since I took the advice from your book and appeared to be a perfect gentleman. No bra, and nothing covering, and I could see them both clear as a bell, even though it was only for a couple seconds.

Keeping your advice in mind, I then quickly said "Oh good, there is more beer!", to make her think I was looking at the table. She said, "At least I didn't drop that!". And I then said something like "Oh, was that you dropping something?". She went on to explain that she had dropped the bag of chips but the bag was only partially open so nothing spilled. I kept your advice and went along with the conversation.

Your advice worked perfectly, and neither her, my girl, nor my brother have any idea of how much I saw. I hope more guys find out about this ("Total Creep - A Guy's Guide")!"


Mike, if she only knew what "spilled". Nice going. As I have said time after time, stories like yours are exactly the reason this book needed to be written. I also appreciate your following up with me and letting me know that you have had success, especially since you had asked me about this very subject a few weeks ago. I tried to put as many of these ideas in along with specific experiences to make this clear.

Here's hoping your brother is still with her during the summer weather. Maybe she likes wearing loose fitting shorts!

Readers and listeners to my book are welcome to send me comments and questions in pursuit of seeing the babes at ic.london at live.com.

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A train ride for training

Doing what I can to make a fellow total creep a better passenger on the train...........

Eddie from Chicago writes:

"I was getting on the (commuter) train yesterday and noticed a hot babe with a very low cut shirt on sitting down by a window seat on the first level. Remembering what I learned from your book (" Total Creep - A Guy's Guide ") I went up the steps to try and sit across on the top level so that I could see down to where she was seated. However, there was already some guy sitting in the one seat that had the best view, so all I could do was sit behind him. Her shoulder was blocking my view, and there was nothing I could do.

But it was just as you talk about. The guy in front of me was taking an occasional glance down in her direction trying to see down her top. And twice during the train ride the conductor came down the aisle and both times he looked down in her direction even though her train ticket was on display in the holder in front of her seat. Unfortunately, I had to exit the train before she did, so my effort went for naught. Is there anything I could or should have done?"

Good question and good observation, Eddie. That is just another example of situations that prompted me to write the book in the first place. Wherever you have a babe letting it show you will have guys ready to get a peek. And not many guys know how to get the best possible look.

It is tough to answer accurately because I don't have all the specifics, even though you gave me the information you did. Looks like you had the right instinct by going up to the upper level to try and look down her top. I have had train and bus rides like that where you sit above and across passengers and can get an angle down a top or down the back of a babe, and often for 15 minutes or longer.

From what I recall of commuter trains and from what you describe, it sounds like there were no other seats closer to her on the upper level, so I understand that you couldn't continue past and try to see down her top from above.

You also didn't say whether or not you could see or had the potential to see down her back when she sat up or got up. But from what you described, it sounds like seeing down her top was clearly the priority.

The only reason to sit where you did would be if you had reason to believe she would be leaving the train soon. (It sounds like you had a short journey.) When a babe reaches over to grab her purse or belongings or gets up from the seat, there sometimes is the chance to get a view down the top or her backside, however brief.

You mentioned that you could see the guy in front of you glancing at her, and the conductor deliberately glancing that way as well. If the conductor looked twice it probably means he got a good view walking past her the first time and wanted to see it again. In my "professional" opinion, that was your indicator, and you missed out.

Here is what I would have done. After going up the steps and realizing that I could not get a seat with a good enough view down her top, I would have looked at my watch (as if I was flustered), turned around and gone back down the steps. I would then have walked on the lower level and walked past her innocently. I would know exactly where she is sitting and been looking around, timing it so that I am looking in her direction as I walk by her. Slowly. I would have gotten at least a couple of seconds worth of a view down her top while walking by.

If there was a seat across from or nearby, I would have sat in it. Then been looking around and out the windows as if I am uncertain about the upcoming stop(s) on the train. I would have kept an eye on her as each stop approaches.

In the event I was exiting the train before her, I would be able to walk past her (like the conductor did) and get one more look before leaving.

From this point on, it depends on whether or not she is wearing a bra (which you didn't indicate, although it is possible you couldn't tell.).

Then, if she was NOT wearing a bra and was to get up to exit at an upcoming stop, I would have also gotten up and followed her as if I was exiting at the same stop. I would try to stand behind or along side of her while waiting for the stop. That is often an opportunity for a look down her collar if you get the right angle. Maybe catch a break if there are steps down at the exit door and she was standing on them, giving me a view from slightly above. (Many buses have the exit steps as well and can get you a nice 'over the shoulder' glance, too!)

Keep in mind that in this situation she is in front of you. I would (hopefully) get my look down her top. Since this was not really "my" stop, I would then appear flustered and back off slowly since I would not be exiting the train at this stop.

Next, I would go to the next car of the train and find another seat for the rest of my ride. Of course, while walking down the aisle I would have my cell phone or MP3 player in my hand and appear to be looking at it. That is my method of really looking down tops of babes as I walk down the aisle. And on goes the ride.

If that babe was wearing a bra, I would have been glad to have seen it, and not bothered to get up.

Yes, I am aware that some people take the same train car every day and that if they see me often I could look obvious or suspicious by going down the aisles and looking uncertain. That is why when I have done regular commuter buses or trains in my life, I make it a point to vary the routine. Check out a different car of the train each day or sit in different parts of the bus. Take an earlier or later train or bus if feasible. This way, I am not overly "familiar" with regular passengers. More importantly, it gives me the opportunity to hopefully check out different babes.

In your case, Eddie, I hope you know to watch for this same babe again on your commute. Maybe she regularly wears revealing outfits and you can be ready to sit above her and/or walk by her a couple of times. If that train lets 2 people sit on one seat, maybe you could just happen to sit next to her. If she sits by the window and you could sit on the aisle side, you could appear to be looking out the window but be staring down her collar. Either way, you are enjoying the view.

Thanks for your question!

Again, this is why I wrote an entire book for guys about how to do this sort of thing. You can order " Total Creep - A Guy's Guide " from TotalCreepBook.info, and you can write me with your reaction and questions at ic.london at live.com

Keeping abreast of the readers' thoughts.........

Again, thanks for the great feedback about "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide". You can write me at ic.london at live.com. I'll try to respond to as many as I can here.

Arnie C. of Minnesota writes:

"Your audio book is awesome. My brother sent it to me here at college. I have been listening while in the workout area on campus and actually have been watching some babes while listening to you. (Note - I don't narrate the book. Ken Collier does and is excellent!) The best part was yesterday afternoon when I finished working out. I was walking up the outside stairway back to my dorm when I noticed a (female student) sitting on the stairs wearing a skirt. I was able to get a good angle looking all the way up. Then I took your advice and casually turned around after going up past her and got to see a bit of her butt. Never would have thought of that if not for you! Why did you take so long to publish this?"

Thanks, Arnie. A long question, but I appreciate that. I can answer you by saying, again, that it is experiences such as yours that are the reason I 'finally' put this out. There have been many instances where I have been able to see the goods on a babe when there are other guys around who could also enjoy but aren't paying enough attention to realize it. It's not like I can stand there and wave and point to guys I don't know to come and take a look.

Eddie O. of Indiana writes:

"I enjoyed hearing your book as much as everyone else seems to be. But I'm fascinated with the number of experiences you have had seeing (breasts). I have been able to see a lot of bra, but am not getting anywhere with all of the (breast). What gives?"

There are no guarantees in life, Eddie. What gives seems to be the fashion lords. On one side, more and more young ladies wear tops which reveal a ton of skin. Sometimes even to work and to school, which never was acceptable until the past few years. And often even more revealing when out socially. The down side to that is that it increases their need to protect some or most of their breasts. Showing bra straps and even the top inch of bra isn't even questioned anymore.

While it is most enjoyable to more easily see a lot of skin and get more easy looks down into a bra, this fashion trend has significantly increased the percentage of young ladies who wear a bra most or all of the time.

Until this decade, it seemed that more young ladies would not wear a bra but not wear tops that were revealing. It was during those times that my "full" breast sightings were more common. When she would lean over and not realize her collar came down enough to give a quick look all the way down. Or be seated where I could walk by and get a nice glance down over her shoulder and see it all. Especially in warm weather hubs such as Los Angeles, Miami, and others where a summer stroll would totally make your day.

So to answer your question, seeing all of the breasts is much more of a challenge because of the percentage who now wear a bra. Hopefully that will change back in the next couple of years. However, the trade off has been the shorter tops and t-shirts that allow for so many panties and butt crack views. I would say I saw maybe 3 or 4 butt views in public over the 20+ years of looking until this decade. In the past couple of years, to me it is as if the butt views and full breast views have almost switched places.

And I hear what you are saying. The last couple of summers, I have noticed that the few babes not wearing a bra are wearing something not as revealing and it takes a break such as leaning over or a loose collar while seated for me to be able to see in. We all have no choice but to wait and see what the trends are.