She Caught Me Looking

As good as I have become over the years at not getting "caught" checking out a babe in public, it still happens to the best of us. It doesn't happen very often, but today I actually made it a positive experience for both her and for me. That's not easy.

I was in the plaza entering an office building this morning when I noticed a babe wearing a loose fitting top and jeans sitting on one of the benches. As luck had it, she decided to lean forward to get something out of her bag, which she had on the floor by her feet, just as I walking toward her.

At that time, I was maybe 20 feet away and walking straight on toward her. I was determining which side to walk past the bench on, trying to see if either side of her top would get me a look any further down.

It seems she had one of those open bras on that covers little more than the bottom of her boobies and the nipples and leaves the middle wide open. I'd say those are 36 C's, so I slowed down to get a good look. Well, evidently, she realized that her top was hanging and that I had slowed down and suddenly looked right up at me. So I was caught in the act.

As you might expect, she was giving me a very nasty look, and I was less than 10 feet from her looking head on.

It was too late to do my usual act of bringing my wrist watch up or tinkering with my phone to appear that I didn't even see her. (The same act I have been successful at more than 99% of the time over the years.) She knew what I was doing, and, frankly, the view was too good to turn away.

Instead of trying to deny, this time I reacted honestly. And it actually helped. I said to her, "If I wasn't interested in looking, THEN you would have a reason to be upset!".

I suppose it stunned her. But she actually started to crack a smile. So I kept walking and looked away. She didn't say anything else. I decided to walk behind and away from her, rather than my usual approach of going behind to check her for butt crack showing. At that point, it wasn't worth the risk.

A few seconds later, I did turn around, and she was already walking away in the other direction. But at least nothing further came of my getting "caught looking".

That response of my commenting to a babe under similar circumstances is extremely rare. At the time, it was all I could do to not appear to be the total creep I really am. She was attractive and definitely had a nice pair on her, but at least she realized I meant well toward her. Good thing she didn't know that probably a minute later I was already looking down some other babe's shirt as she waited for an elevator to arrive. Business as usual.

Meanwhile, I need to point out that it is never good to get "caught looking" like I did. Even though there were no consequences (She could have called me a creep or made a scene and embarrassed me big time.), I know that I probably ruined it for other guys. She probably won't lean over like that again in a public place. Maybe she won't wear loose fitting tops anymore, and those nice boobies will be a bigger secret because of me.

That's why guys need to learn these skills of how to enjoy but not get caught.

Under that gown!

Chuck of MD writes:
"I wanted you to know how much your advice helped me over the weekend. Even with all of the fantastic information in your book, I must thank you for the chapter about appearing to be composed when you see something great. If not for that, I'd be in a lot of trouble with my loved ones.

While visiting my daughter in the hospital over the weekend (and she is fine now and already home), I was seated along side of her and facing toward the next bed. In that bed was a very attractive (babe), probably early 20's. When I came in, she was resting on her side and her gown was open most of the way down her back. I couldn't see all the way down, but knew the chances were good she had nothing on underneath. Certainly no bra, but I wasn't sure about panties. She looked over toward us and said hello before sitting up and resting.

A few minutes later, I was getting ready to leave but still chatting with my lovely daughter. As luck had it, a nurse came in to check on the other girl's readings, and stood on the side in between my daughter's bed and hers. The (babe) then sat up and moved her legs over toward the side of the bed which was facing us. Sure enough, the gown came way up and open and I could easily see all the way up between her legs. Indeed, no panties!

My daughter was not always looking at me so neither of them could tell that I was trying to see what I could of the other (babe). But when she turned toward me and her gown opened up, that (babe) could tell that I saw what I saw.

Luckily, your book was totally on my mind. That was how I knew to watch where both my daughter and the other (babe) were looking to know when I could try to sneak a peek.

And I instantly recalled your story about your girlfriend's sister not wearing panties that time and how you handled it. Worked like a charm!

The other (babe) knew I saw. I somehow managed to do an Academy Award performance on the spot. I flashed a concerned look on my face, raised a hand as if to wave, and said "Oh, I'm sorry. I should leave" to her. The (babe) showed an exasperated look, realizing that I had seen her bush, and managed to say "I understand. Don't worry about it."

My daughter asked what happened, and I said that "Her gown almost came open" and that "I probably shouldn't be here". Then my daughter turned to the (babe) and apologized as well.

So I was able to finish up and leave right away with both of them (and the nurse) thinking I was truly sorry. As you can understand, the only thing I was sorry about was that I didn't get a longer look up her legs!

Your book made all of the difference. Not only did I realize I had an opportunity there, but I also knew how to get out of major ramifications without incident.

Have you had any similar hospital experiences like this? Or is this new territory, even for you?"



Thanks for sharing, Chuck. If my book were done as a class, you would be my best student. Glad you kept everything in mind from knowing only to look when the others were not and for acting as though you didn't mean to see what you saw. I understand how much "acting" was involved there!

Meanwhile, your hospital question is a tough one. Yes, I have had a nice sighting or two in a hosptial environment over the years. I did not and would not write about it. Young women in a hospital (or related medical enviornment) should not have to worry about us total creep guys lurking around. On one hand, it is difficult for me to endorse this enviornment as a "good" source for being a total creep. But on the other hand, I would have done the same thing as you did if the situation arose. And hopefully handled it as well as you did!

When being a Total Creep takes work............

Brandon K. of MA writes:

"I also totally enjoyed listening to your (audio) book. Now I'm wondering. I work in an office building with an 8 story apartment building across the street, and I can easily stay late or come in early to get some "work" done. I had a big project to finish and wound up working until almost 10 PM the other night. Before leaving work, I realized that with binoculars I could see into some of the units and I could tell that curtains were open. I'm going to "work" late one night next week. But I don't understand how you know which units have the babes. I sure don't want to be looking at old men."

I understand, Brandon. But doing research is part of learning about an apartment or condo building you can spy on. There is no one set way. It depends upon your situation. Often times you need to check out every (apartment or condo) unit you can see into and see who lives there. So, yes, there is a chance you'll see some fat old man in his undies. There is some trial and error. But if you see a young man living there, check back in the event he has a wife or girlfriend living there as well.

This is part of the reason I wrote "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide". If you could just get some binoculars and start looking, the book wouldn't be necessary. You need to do your research to identify which units are worth checking out. I have had situations where I could also see the parking area for a building, notice babes coming home, and then see which apartment lights go on seconds later. But it varies.

But if you are doing this from work, be sure to be aware of a cleaning crew, security guard, and work colleagues who have access to the office or room you would use. You don't want to be discovered. Listen again to my chapter about procedures. Let me know how it goes!

I enjoy your questions and comments about " Total Creep - A Guy's Guide " at ic.london at live.com.

Assists from guys?

Tom R. from Texas writes:

"I would also like to say that I love the book and learned so many things from you in a short period of time. Your points about catching a break reminded me about the time last year that I saw some guy at an outdoor concert tug on the shorts his (wife or girlfriend) was wearing and actually exposed significant (butt) crack with a crowd around. Have you ever seen something like this? If so, why didn't you write about it?"

Glad to be of service, Tom. I have been fortunate enough to see a few incidents such as the one you described over the years. And I would have to believe that these are now former girlfriends and not wives. I remember one night at a baseball game I was seated in a row just behind a hottie with a loose tank top and not wearing a bra (which was no coincidence I might add). The guy with her was clearly aware that it was all her under that top. I could see him trying to get close to her so he could get a look down. (The jerk was blocking my view!) At one point, he put his hand by her shoulder and tugged at her top as if he was going to pop out a breast. She put her hand up there in time, and her face was livid. I'd bet the ranch that was her last date with him.

Actually, I was happy with him, since he gave me a significant glance, but truthfully I'm sorry he did that to her. That was not proper behaviour and not respectful.

Anyway, getting back to your question, while I have seen that type of incident, I didn't write about it because that was not the intent of the book. The stories I tell are to demonstrate using the various techniques and how to get the best views, what to do, etc. Being in the right place at the right time to see some guy do something like you described is merely a matter of timing.

There is a significant difference between having a straight on angle when a babe bends over and her top comes down and waiting for some guy to lift her top.

After you read or listen to " Total Creep - A Guy's Guide " please e-mail me with comments and questions at ic.london at live.com.

The Total Creep and schedules

Brian F. of Philadelphia writes:

“You hit it on the nose about the tendencies of babes at home. I can’t thank you enough. I did my exploring of the apartment building across the street and found a hot babe that likes to shower around 11:00 every night and then walk out to go into her bedroom before putting anything back on. As long as her curtains stay open, this is becoming habit forming. How did you figure this out?”

Thanks, and nice going on your find. This is something I noticed since the beginning of my binoculars days going all the way back to when I was in high school. But it is not limited to hot babes when you stop to think about it. I’ll be you probably set your alarm clock for the same time every morning and have your routine to start and end your day. The next time you are amazed that the hottie in that apartment just walked naked where you could see her right on schedule, think about how many things you and people in your life do at around the same time every day. Or every working day, at the very least.

The first couple of weeks after you find a babe to “watch” at home are important for YOUR schedule, too. Chances are you would spend a few hours in each of those first few nights in order to narrow it down to the best possible time(s) to be watching. You might have watched a few nights from 8 until 11 to see her make her walk before you realized that she is fairly consistent about the 11:00 time frame.

Depending on how many places (or how few) you can see into which have babes worth watching, you will find that knowing their schedules can save you hours of looking through binoculars at someone watching TV while staying dressed, or waiting and waiting until she gets home.

As I wrote in the book, I had my observation schedule going to the max during the couple of years I could see into a high rise building in a big city. From the babe that would start her day by walking into the kitchen at least topless early in the morning to the one that would walk around naked to turn out the lights just after 11:00 on weeknights. Of course, there are exceptions and there will be surprises where the routine changes or is different for a day or two.

You are welcome to comment on my book “ Total Creep – A Guy’s Guide “ at ic.london at live.com. I do my best to answer as many as I can.

A train ride for training

Doing what I can to make a fellow total creep a better passenger on the train...........

Eddie from Chicago writes:

"I was getting on the (commuter) train yesterday and noticed a hot babe with a very low cut shirt on sitting down by a window seat on the first level. Remembering what I learned from your book (" Total Creep - A Guy's Guide ") I went up the steps to try and sit across on the top level so that I could see down to where she was seated. However, there was already some guy sitting in the one seat that had the best view, so all I could do was sit behind him. Her shoulder was blocking my view, and there was nothing I could do.

But it was just as you talk about. The guy in front of me was taking an occasional glance down in her direction trying to see down her top. And twice during the train ride the conductor came down the aisle and both times he looked down in her direction even though her train ticket was on display in the holder in front of her seat. Unfortunately, I had to exit the train before she did, so my effort went for naught. Is there anything I could or should have done?"

Good question and good observation, Eddie. That is just another example of situations that prompted me to write the book in the first place. Wherever you have a babe letting it show you will have guys ready to get a peek. And not many guys know how to get the best possible look.

It is tough to answer accurately because I don't have all the specifics, even though you gave me the information you did. Looks like you had the right instinct by going up to the upper level to try and look down her top. I have had train and bus rides like that where you sit above and across passengers and can get an angle down a top or down the back of a babe, and often for 15 minutes or longer.

From what I recall of commuter trains and from what you describe, it sounds like there were no other seats closer to her on the upper level, so I understand that you couldn't continue past and try to see down her top from above.

You also didn't say whether or not you could see or had the potential to see down her back when she sat up or got up. But from what you described, it sounds like seeing down her top was clearly the priority.

The only reason to sit where you did would be if you had reason to believe she would be leaving the train soon. (It sounds like you had a short journey.) When a babe reaches over to grab her purse or belongings or gets up from the seat, there sometimes is the chance to get a view down the top or her backside, however brief.

You mentioned that you could see the guy in front of you glancing at her, and the conductor deliberately glancing that way as well. If the conductor looked twice it probably means he got a good view walking past her the first time and wanted to see it again. In my "professional" opinion, that was your indicator, and you missed out.

Here is what I would have done. After going up the steps and realizing that I could not get a seat with a good enough view down her top, I would have looked at my watch (as if I was flustered), turned around and gone back down the steps. I would then have walked on the lower level and walked past her innocently. I would know exactly where she is sitting and been looking around, timing it so that I am looking in her direction as I walk by her. Slowly. I would have gotten at least a couple of seconds worth of a view down her top while walking by.

If there was a seat across from or nearby, I would have sat in it. Then been looking around and out the windows as if I am uncertain about the upcoming stop(s) on the train. I would have kept an eye on her as each stop approaches.

In the event I was exiting the train before her, I would be able to walk past her (like the conductor did) and get one more look before leaving.

From this point on, it depends on whether or not she is wearing a bra (which you didn't indicate, although it is possible you couldn't tell.).

Then, if she was NOT wearing a bra and was to get up to exit at an upcoming stop, I would have also gotten up and followed her as if I was exiting at the same stop. I would try to stand behind or along side of her while waiting for the stop. That is often an opportunity for a look down her collar if you get the right angle. Maybe catch a break if there are steps down at the exit door and she was standing on them, giving me a view from slightly above. (Many buses have the exit steps as well and can get you a nice 'over the shoulder' glance, too!)

Keep in mind that in this situation she is in front of you. I would (hopefully) get my look down her top. Since this was not really "my" stop, I would then appear flustered and back off slowly since I would not be exiting the train at this stop.

Next, I would go to the next car of the train and find another seat for the rest of my ride. Of course, while walking down the aisle I would have my cell phone or MP3 player in my hand and appear to be looking at it. That is my method of really looking down tops of babes as I walk down the aisle. And on goes the ride.

If that babe was wearing a bra, I would have been glad to have seen it, and not bothered to get up.

Yes, I am aware that some people take the same train car every day and that if they see me often I could look obvious or suspicious by going down the aisles and looking uncertain. That is why when I have done regular commuter buses or trains in my life, I make it a point to vary the routine. Check out a different car of the train each day or sit in different parts of the bus. Take an earlier or later train or bus if feasible. This way, I am not overly "familiar" with regular passengers. More importantly, it gives me the opportunity to hopefully check out different babes.

In your case, Eddie, I hope you know to watch for this same babe again on your commute. Maybe she regularly wears revealing outfits and you can be ready to sit above her and/or walk by her a couple of times. If that train lets 2 people sit on one seat, maybe you could just happen to sit next to her. If she sits by the window and you could sit on the aisle side, you could appear to be looking out the window but be staring down her collar. Either way, you are enjoying the view.

Thanks for your question!

Again, this is why I wrote an entire book for guys about how to do this sort of thing. You can order " Total Creep - A Guy's Guide " from TotalCreepBook.info, and you can write me with your reaction and questions at ic.london at live.com

No more phoning it in

The news story about some late 40’s dude being arrested while naked in a 20-something babe’s apartment going through her underwear is both funny and scary. But as much of a total creep as I have been over the years, and for as much as I have done to see naked babes, I never even thought about doing anything as disgusting as breaking in to a home.

Yet, this story reminded me of an incident that I experienced many years ago along with an outdated method of seeing babes that I didn’t bother to include in my book “Total Creep – A Guy’s Guide”. The incident I am about to refer to is one that would make an interesting “What would I have done?” discussion.

It took place more than 25 years ago when I was living alone in an apartment on a block filled with apartment buildings. One of the units across the street at an angle from me had a college babe with a great body that lived on the same level as mine, giving me a view of the hallway, some of her living room, some of her kitchen, some of her bedroom, and the entrance to her bathroom.

I knew she was a college student because I could see her parking space and would sometimes see her arrive and leave with books, and could see a local university sticker and out of state plates. (I did reference her in the book as the babe that would often study in her bedroom totally naked.) When her bedroom curtains were open enough, I could tell when she was coming into and out of the bathroom shower, even though I could not see into the shower area.

One night, I happened to see her arrive home after dark, park in her space, and carry her books upstairs as usual. But after she came in through the front door and went back toward the kitchen, I could see that her front door swung open. Then I realized that she thought she closed it, and was going about her business as if all was well.

A few minutes later, she started taking off her clothes and then went into her bathroom to take her shower. Yet, I could see that her front door was open and anyone could have walked in while she was alone and taking a shower. Fortunately for her, she lived at the end unit and one needed to be well above street level to tell that her door was open.

My first thought was that if I was a burglar, I would have about 5 minutes to get in and get out with whatever valuables I could find, walk out the back entrance of the building, around the block, and appear to be walking home from the store. But I’m not a burglar, have never been arrested, and didn’t act on it. If I were willing to risk arrest, which I wasn’t and am not, I probably would have been standing with a camera when she came out of the shower and then run, but I wouldn’t risk that either.

Knowing I had a few minutes until she would come out of the shower, I pondered the situation. What if someone else in the building noticed her door was open and lights on? What if they called out and got no answer (because she was in the shower and couldn’t hear)? Somebody certainly could have gone in there and had about 5 minutes to rip off whatever they could. But if someone had, I would have seen it happen.

Suppose I had seen a robbery. I thought about that later. If I had been a witness, I would certainly have helped the girl. However, I would have had to explain why I was a witness. (Again – someone could have run out the back door and in the other direction which could not be seen from street level.) Explaining that I was in my apartment a few hundred feet away with high powered binoculars waiting to see her come out after her shower probably wouldn’t have earned me a hero’s welcome.

The story had a happy ending, at least for her. After all that, a few minutes later when she came out this time she already had her towel wrapped around so I couldn’t see any of her goods. She then walked out toward the kitchen and I could see the expression on her face when she looked and realized the front door was open! She raced over, looked out into the hallway, and then closed it and looked around to see that nothing happened. In a way, she never knew she had “protection” on her apartment while she showered. Then again, she never knew I had the rewards of seeing her great body in all of its glory.

Then there is my “outdated” technique for checking out babes. Thinking about this made me realize that I didn’t include it in the book since technology made this far too risky to be used today. While Caller ID from the phone company has its benefits for all of us, I suppose it is a setback for us total creep guys.

It used to be possible to ring someone’s home phone and not worry about being detected. Many years ago when I was in high school and living in an apartment building with my parents, I was already using my binoculars to see girls in the next building over. A single woman in her early 30’s lived on the level below us across the porch. From my kitchen window I could see into her kitchen and part of the hallway. My folks were friendly with her and I would say hello when coming up the back stairs and she would be in the kitchen, often with the back door open to let the air in. (No central air in those days.)

Even though she was at least 15 years older than me, she was at the “borderline” age but was attractive enough that I wanted to see her naked if possible, but didn’t think it would happen. (Actually, it never did, but it wasn’t for lack of trying.) One summer night I was coming home and walking up the steps. Her kitchen shade was up, the light was on, and the window was open. But the back door was closed. As I got near the window (walking past on the stairs) I then heard the sound of running water. I could see some of the hallway, enough to tell that the bathroom light was on. She was filling the tub to take a bath!

I then hustled upstairs and entered my apartment. I called out, and realized that no one else was home. That’s when my idea came to use. I went over by our phone, opened my mom’s address book, and looked up her phone number. Our phone cord stretched over by our window, from which I could see into her kitchen. I realized that if she was going to answer the phone, she would have to come out of the bath tub to do it. (This was also before most people had answering machines, so every phone call seemed important.) She would be intent on getting that phone call, and would not be looking out her window to see me standing above. And if by some chance she did, how would I know she was coming out of the bath?

Next I dialed her number. I figured I could let it ring 4 or 5 times and hang up. Back then it was a reasonable enough time to wait for someone to answer. Even if I didn’t hang up until after she answered, there was no way she could track the call, and would figure they would call back later, and not think anything of it.

Sure enough, after about 3 rings, out she came. However, by the time she got to the kitchen, she already had her big bath towel wrapped around her, so I didn’t get to see anything other than some cleavage. She answered the phone, figured whoever it was didn’t wait, and kept the towel on as she walked back to the bathroom.

In effect, my idea was a success, even if the results weren’t. I kept this in mind over the next few years after I moved out on my own. I had tried to get the phone number of that college babe who left her door open before that incident, but it wasn’t listed. (I got her name by having walked into that building across the street one night and the mailboxes had the unit numbers on them, and had called directory assistance.) I could have had some big time fun if I had her number, considering the times I knew she was going into the shower.

How does this tie together? I could have called that college babe and in effect alerted her that the front door was open without her knowing it was me. And she probably would have come out naked, too.

But not anymore. Between caller ID and cell phones, a total creep’s options are more limited.

No potty break

James C. of Denver writes:

"As much as I enjoyed the book, I didn't appreciate the references to seeing chicks using the bathroom. I like seeing a naked girl as much as the next guy, but I think that while using the bathroom it should be off limits. In and out of the shower is one thing (and a very good thing, I might add.)"

(First, let me say that I other than spelling or cleaning up a term for a body part or activity, I have done very little editing of these questions. In this instance, James went into more detail about what he, understandably considers "off limits" with his questions. I did my best to give you all the gist of his comment.)

Let me address your concern. For those who enjoy this blog but have yet to read or hear the book, there are a couple of instances where I refer to an experience of having seen a babe in her bathroom. In some instances, I have been able to see a babe getting into and/or out of a shower or bath. Other times it has been to watch her using makeup, combing hair, or some form of grooming.

What James is referring to, obviously, is when using the toilet. And James is right that it can be gross or disgusting to watch (anyone) using the toilet. So I will clarify.

The vast majority of dwellings have the toilet itself placed where it is not easily visible, if at all, from outside of the bathroom. My experience has been that I can tell where the toilet is, but either can't see it at all or at most could see a small part of it. There have been a few times when I could see her legs knowing that she is sitting on the toilet. A couple of other times when I could see her head and above the waist while seated, but I don't recall actually seeing a babe directly using the toilet. I agree that would not be in good taste.

The experiences I wrote about for the book cover what I saw and how I was able to see it when babes were in the bathroom. Some of them are when she was getting ready or had just finished actually using the toilet. This includes clothing and panties being pulled down or up on the way to and from. On a couple of other occasions, I could see some of her legs and be able to be ready for when she would be stepping away from the toilet and be open for a good look. Again, this would be after having used the toilet itself.

I thought I spelled that out in the book, but if not I hope this answers the questions. Ideally, you will have pre and post-shower views to enjoy instead!

As always, your comments and questions about " Total Creep - A Guy's Guide " are welcome at my e-mail of ic.london at live.com.

Keeping quiet

Darrin C. of Iowa asks:

"Have you ever told a babe what you saw, or been tempted to do that? Last night I saw a neighbor babe across the courtway take off her top and bra to change, and this morning I saw her in the garage. It was so tempting to tell her I like her little blue nightie but I knew I had better not."

First, Darrin, congrats on your sighting! Let me tell you how much I understand exactly what you mean. It is difficult to keep it quiet sometimes, but common sense takes over and you don't and shouldn't let on to a babe. One slip of the lips could do you a lot of harm. You need to always remember that. She could tell others that you did or said something.

Let me relate a personal "non-experience" I had. I remember years ago walking down the block from my car with my girlfriend at the time heading toward my apartment. We walked by a young lady that lived in the next apartment building over, and like we occasionally did, we exchanged a "hello" when passing. After we passed, I remember telling my girlfriend that I see her going to her car and I "think she lives in that brown building over there".

What I didn't tell my girlfriend was that I had seen her completely naked several times and knew her car and her boyfriend's car. But I thought about what could have happened if that babe somehow knew I had seen her naked with binoculars. She could have caused a lot of damage to my relationship. And I have kept that thought ever since.

As tempting as it gets, don't say anything or let on. Telling a buddy who will keep your secret is one thing. But always be careful who you tell.

But I certainly understand the temptation. I once saw a babe who lived across the street and managed a simple "hello". As much as I wanted to ask her if she today was one of the days when she didn't wear any underwear, but I knew that chances are she would have freaked out. She could have alerted authorities who could have been watching me and nailed me for good. Better to think I am a friendly neighbor. And better for me to know I could still see her naked from time to time. A better choice, I am sure!

Thanks to the readers and listeners to "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" for e-mailing me with questions and comments at ic.london at live.com.

My past girlfriends and wife

Hank S. of Delaware writes:

"I especially enjoyed the parts of the book where you explain about seeing the goods on babes who are wives or girlfriends of your friends. I was fortunate enough to get the chance to use one of your suggestions and it worked. But I know I sure wouldn't like it if I knew another guy could see my wife's (breasts) or butt. Do you feel the same way? If so, do have you any preventive measures?"

Interesting question, Hank, and glad to have helped you already. I will tell you that I have always had the selfish attitude that it is OK for me to check out any babe I want to but not OK for guys to "see" the woman I am with.

Personally, I have gone as far as to ask a then serious girlfriend to make an adjustment so that guys wouldn't be able to see. There was one night when I drove up to get her for a night out and she came out wearing a tight and partially see-through top without a bra. Instinctively I could see through to her breasts while she opened the door to get in the car. A few minutes later, we were walking into a restaurant and a young guy we were walking past had his mouth hanging open and was, shall we say, enjoying the view.

Well, I knew exactly where he was looking and certainly didn't like it. Later that night, in the privacy of the car, I came right out and told her that as much as she absolutely turned me on by wearing that outside, I prefer and appreciate being the only one to get to see and enjoy what she has going on under her shirt. I then told her about that guy in the restaurant staring at them and that I didn't like that. And from that point on, I never saw her outside of her home or mine wearing anything that revealing again.

But I know she appreciated how I told her and saw it as a compliment. After that, she did even more to turn me on even more when we were at home and in private. This was more than 20 years ago and I still remember her for this. She would always wear underwear and not reveal too much when we were out, but then would take off her underwear and unbutton or unzip a lot more after we got home. Just for me.

It is funny in a way, but my wife has always been good about this, and I never had to bring it up. She didn't and still doesn't show anything when she goes out, but is quite sexy at home.

But that is for the woman I am with. Otherwise, it is fair game, even if it is a babe going with a family member or great friend.

I know, and I am sure you do to, of many guys who don't care or are not phased when the woman they are with, even a wife, is wearing something revealing. Us total creeps should continue to be thankful for them.

If you have enjoyed "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" and have a question or comment, please e-mail me at ic.london at live.com. I answer as many as I can here.

Readers Can Get The Picture

Guys looking to become a fellow "Total Creep" continue to pass along some great ideas to me, and I appreciate it. I'm sure guys around the country will as well.

Those of you who have listened to or read the book know about some of my real life experiences seeing the babes. Along with my tips for getting the best angle and being in the right place at the right time. I had been wanting a way for guys to get the visual, and now I have one.

I joined the Flickr web site, which allows for the public posting of a series of photos. It's not like I could restrict to those who purchase the book, so these photos are there for the looking.

There are some great photo examples. A few guys have questioned me about seeing up a skirt when a babe is sitting on steps while walking up a stairway. Now I have a photo online which is taken from the angle I suggest you be at. Another photo shows a possible view when you walk behind and above a babe who is seated and can get a glance down her top. You can see why the grocery store can be a more enjoyable place than you could have imagined.

If you have listened to or read the book, these photos will definitely help for you to visualize and improve upon the tips you received. And if you haven't read the book, these photos will show you exactly the type of advice I give and how you can benefit.

Your feedback on this is also welcome. Check it out:

www.Flickr.com/photos/totalcreep/