Bob of NY writes:
"I have heard a few guys talk about seeing (babes) wearing skirts with no panties underneath, and then heard your audio book where you also talk about that. Where are these (babes)? I don't mind seeing a lot of panties, but obviously would like to see some (vag) action. Where else should I be looking?"
Good question, Bob. I certainly wish there was a simple answer to that, but there isn't. This part of checking out the babes is more luck than skill. But since I'm the expert, I'll answer as best I can.
From what I have seen and heard, some babes won't wear panties under an expensive dress, or one that is very tight or showing a ton of skin. They don't want panty lines or to have panty showing easily. When this happens, it is usually in a fancy club or an expensive restaurant. Those circumstances often make it tough to get a good angle when she sits down, and many times the lighting isn't sufficient to get a clear view. Even in my experience, I can think of a couple of times when I couldn't tell if she actually had skimpy dark colorerd panties on, if there wasn't enough light, or if she had naturally dark hair, if you get my drift. Every once in a while, babes will go without underwear to be sexy for the guy they are with as if it is their little secret.
My personal best "luck" with this has been when they wear short shorts or loose fitting shorts with nothing underneath. Every time I have seen "up" and no panties has been in a hot weather situation. A couple of times they have been standing on steps and I have been able to be below and get a clear view looking right up there. I have also seen a couple of instances of sitting on a lawn with their legs up or open, thinking her shorts cover all, and they don't. So when you finally get warm weather up there in New York, start checking out some festivals or outdoor concerts, or parks, where the babes sit wearing shorts and try to get a look inside.
Do keep in mind that as panties have gotten skimpier over the past few years, I have seen a few instances of pubic hair coming out beyond the panties. However, with the increase in the number of babes who shave more in that area, that percentage has dropped of late.
Otherwise, like with you, it takes hundreds and hundreds of upskirt looks at panties to finally see one without, and that makes all of the other looks worthwhile.
Questions? I'm at ic.london at live.com. You can let me know if you wish to remain private.
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Creeping back................
Hi all. First, thanks for all of the concern expressed privately to me over the past few weeks. I am doing just fine and have been fine all along. Sometimes real life gets in the way of my writing, and that has been the case for about 2 months.
Pleased to report that we have extended our agreement with a marketing agency to continue promoting "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" and plan to continue helping guys to see the goods on babes as often as possible.
Plenty of questions to post....so I'll be getting going on that today.
Readers and listeners of my book are welcome to contact me at ic.london at live.com
Pleased to report that we have extended our agreement with a marketing agency to continue promoting "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" and plan to continue helping guys to see the goods on babes as often as possible.
Plenty of questions to post....so I'll be getting going on that today.
Readers and listeners of my book are welcome to contact me at ic.london at live.com
Thursday, January 7, 2010
Benefits of binoculars
Jim K. of WA writes:
"Great book! It's about time somebody stepped up and helped us guys. I live in the (omitted) section near Seattle on an upper floor and can see into about 40 different apartments. I had seen a few chicks topless or naked, but I never thought of some of the things you mention. Moving day, the parking lot, some great ideas. Thanks! One thing you didn't mention is about the binoculars you use. Do you use different sets depending on circumstances? Any recommendations?"
Having good binoculars is obviously important for spying on babes, especially for situations like yours where you have a nice selection of apartments (or condos) to check out. However, I'm not much of a help these days. I still use a set I bought more than 10 years ago, so I haven't kept up on the changes with binoculars.
One problem I am aware of is that the newer sets tend to be smaller and lighter weight, and often not as powerful as some of the older versions like what I have. You want strong and powerful ahead of size and weight.
Obviously, you can't reveal your purpose for use (especially if the sales person is female!). When you go to the sporting goods shop or whatever retailer to investigate, you might wear a Mariners or Seahawks cap or shirt and appear to be a fan who has crappy seats and wants to be able to see the game. Or perhaps say that you go hunting early in the morning and want something with good night vision. Better yet, do your research on the most powerful models and check online so that nobody in your area sees you purchasing them.
From what you told me, you need a set more powerful. Hopefully you'll find something within your budget.
Readers and listeners of "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" or readers of this blog can ask via comments or reach me via www.TotalCreep.com.
"Great book! It's about time somebody stepped up and helped us guys. I live in the (omitted) section near Seattle on an upper floor and can see into about 40 different apartments. I had seen a few chicks topless or naked, but I never thought of some of the things you mention. Moving day, the parking lot, some great ideas. Thanks! One thing you didn't mention is about the binoculars you use. Do you use different sets depending on circumstances? Any recommendations?"
Having good binoculars is obviously important for spying on babes, especially for situations like yours where you have a nice selection of apartments (or condos) to check out. However, I'm not much of a help these days. I still use a set I bought more than 10 years ago, so I haven't kept up on the changes with binoculars.
One problem I am aware of is that the newer sets tend to be smaller and lighter weight, and often not as powerful as some of the older versions like what I have. You want strong and powerful ahead of size and weight.
Obviously, you can't reveal your purpose for use (especially if the sales person is female!). When you go to the sporting goods shop or whatever retailer to investigate, you might wear a Mariners or Seahawks cap or shirt and appear to be a fan who has crappy seats and wants to be able to see the game. Or perhaps say that you go hunting early in the morning and want something with good night vision. Better yet, do your research on the most powerful models and check online so that nobody in your area sees you purchasing them.
From what you told me, you need a set more powerful. Hopefully you'll find something within your budget.
Readers and listeners of "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" or readers of this blog can ask via comments or reach me via www.TotalCreep.com.
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
He who hesitates is lost
Joey C. of NJ writes:
"I enjoyed listening to your audio book two times. Your advice is great, and I especially liked your tips for when going to ballgames and outdoor concerts. As a 24 year old single guy, I also had the ability to check out some apartments across the courtway. I have seen a married chick one floor down who sometimes walks around with her shirt completely unbuttoned and her (boobs) pop out all the time.
However, even as a horny as I get on nights I don't have a date, I still don't know that I could do some of the things you talk about. I think it's one thing to see a check walking around with her shirt open, but frankly I think you take it too far. Watching chicks sleeping, having sex, grooming, and taking a shower doesn't seem right. Don't you really feel guilty about that?"
A fair question Joey, and thanks for the permission to post your note. I usually get these comments and questions from women (see the next question). In your case, you see the value of spying on the babes, and you can watch for whatever you want. Yes, it is extremely invasive to watch a babe when she assumes she has privacy. Not that this makes it "right", but the saying "What she doesn't know can't hurt her" means everything.
You never know what you'll see when you look into someone's home. In my book I wanted to cover any and all possibilities, because I have certainly seen my share in 35+ years and while living or staying in numerous cities across the country. I don't like watching a babe have sex with a guy either. Seeing a naked guy is a huge turnoff for me. If I know when the couple starts the sex act, I will often check back every couple minutes. It's not the act I want to see, and certainly not the guy, but I want to see the babe naked when they are done. I find that most of the time she will either sit up or get up to cover herself or put something on to head into the bathroom. That's the only moment I'm truly watching for. In that instance of her being with a guy, I also point out to you that she is well aware that a guy is seeing her naked. Same when babes walk around the house with little or nothing on right in front of her significant other. They know that a guy is seeing their body, even though they don't know it's more than one.
When I have watch babes while sleeping, it is really waiting for them to wake up and get out of bed in the morning so I can see what's doing under the covers. As detailed in the book, some wear nightgowns but without panties underneath, while others sleep wearing little or nothing. It has also happened where I have waited an hour or more for a babe to get up only to have it turn out that she is wearing full pajamas or a non-revealing nightgown, but those are the risks we take.
Personally, I love watching a babe taking a shower, or watching the shower area knowing she is in there and will be coming out stark naked any second. While I have admitted that watching them on the toilet still feels awkward, I always keep the purpose in mind. I don't enjoy that she is relieving herself. Rather, I wait for the moment that she stands up so that I can see what I can see while she pulls up her panties or pants.
One solution to your concern, since not all of that is for you, is to not look into her bedroom or bathroom window if a view becomes available. Glad you enjoyed the chapters on public events, too. Let me know how you handle this.
Sherry K. of OH writes:
"You telling guys how to watch women at home with binoculars should be cause to have you locked up without a key. This is a complete breach of privacy. I just sent a boyfriend of two months away for good after he let me listen to about 5 minutes of your audio. I wouldn't want a guy who would do that anywhere near me. Or any other woman for that matter. I can't even ask how you would like it if you were watched in the shower or undressing, because most guys don't care. You don't understand how you violate our right to privacy. Your neighbors are not in a porn movie. You disgust me."
Well, Sherry, sorry if I helped cost you a boyfriend. Not to be difficult or not respect your opinion, but nobody is forcing guys to buy my book or audio book and to take my advice and utilize my experiences. In some ways, it is a compliment to these babes that guys enjoy seeing them partially or fully naked. I don't watch just any female. There are many that I could have seen but wasn't interested despite the opportunity. I don't care to look if she isn't attractive. There are guys who enjoy checking out much older women and I think that's disgusting. But they can use my advice and experience for whatever purpose.
If I didn't see a lot of other guys doing these things and checking out the babes no matter what, I wouldn't have taken the hours and hours to create my book and sell more than I had anticipated. I would bet the ranch that every boyfriend you get wouldn't want to see you and other women naked at every opportunity. Don't shoot the messenger.
Male or female, readers and listeners of my book are encouraged to send comments and questions to me. "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" is available at www.TotalCreep.com.
"I enjoyed listening to your audio book two times. Your advice is great, and I especially liked your tips for when going to ballgames and outdoor concerts. As a 24 year old single guy, I also had the ability to check out some apartments across the courtway. I have seen a married chick one floor down who sometimes walks around with her shirt completely unbuttoned and her (boobs) pop out all the time.
However, even as a horny as I get on nights I don't have a date, I still don't know that I could do some of the things you talk about. I think it's one thing to see a check walking around with her shirt open, but frankly I think you take it too far. Watching chicks sleeping, having sex, grooming, and taking a shower doesn't seem right. Don't you really feel guilty about that?"
A fair question Joey, and thanks for the permission to post your note. I usually get these comments and questions from women (see the next question). In your case, you see the value of spying on the babes, and you can watch for whatever you want. Yes, it is extremely invasive to watch a babe when she assumes she has privacy. Not that this makes it "right", but the saying "What she doesn't know can't hurt her" means everything.
You never know what you'll see when you look into someone's home. In my book I wanted to cover any and all possibilities, because I have certainly seen my share in 35+ years and while living or staying in numerous cities across the country. I don't like watching a babe have sex with a guy either. Seeing a naked guy is a huge turnoff for me. If I know when the couple starts the sex act, I will often check back every couple minutes. It's not the act I want to see, and certainly not the guy, but I want to see the babe naked when they are done. I find that most of the time she will either sit up or get up to cover herself or put something on to head into the bathroom. That's the only moment I'm truly watching for. In that instance of her being with a guy, I also point out to you that she is well aware that a guy is seeing her naked. Same when babes walk around the house with little or nothing on right in front of her significant other. They know that a guy is seeing their body, even though they don't know it's more than one.
When I have watch babes while sleeping, it is really waiting for them to wake up and get out of bed in the morning so I can see what's doing under the covers. As detailed in the book, some wear nightgowns but without panties underneath, while others sleep wearing little or nothing. It has also happened where I have waited an hour or more for a babe to get up only to have it turn out that she is wearing full pajamas or a non-revealing nightgown, but those are the risks we take.
Personally, I love watching a babe taking a shower, or watching the shower area knowing she is in there and will be coming out stark naked any second. While I have admitted that watching them on the toilet still feels awkward, I always keep the purpose in mind. I don't enjoy that she is relieving herself. Rather, I wait for the moment that she stands up so that I can see what I can see while she pulls up her panties or pants.
One solution to your concern, since not all of that is for you, is to not look into her bedroom or bathroom window if a view becomes available. Glad you enjoyed the chapters on public events, too. Let me know how you handle this.
Sherry K. of OH writes:
"You telling guys how to watch women at home with binoculars should be cause to have you locked up without a key. This is a complete breach of privacy. I just sent a boyfriend of two months away for good after he let me listen to about 5 minutes of your audio. I wouldn't want a guy who would do that anywhere near me. Or any other woman for that matter. I can't even ask how you would like it if you were watched in the shower or undressing, because most guys don't care. You don't understand how you violate our right to privacy. Your neighbors are not in a porn movie. You disgust me."
Well, Sherry, sorry if I helped cost you a boyfriend. Not to be difficult or not respect your opinion, but nobody is forcing guys to buy my book or audio book and to take my advice and utilize my experiences. In some ways, it is a compliment to these babes that guys enjoy seeing them partially or fully naked. I don't watch just any female. There are many that I could have seen but wasn't interested despite the opportunity. I don't care to look if she isn't attractive. There are guys who enjoy checking out much older women and I think that's disgusting. But they can use my advice and experience for whatever purpose.
If I didn't see a lot of other guys doing these things and checking out the babes no matter what, I wouldn't have taken the hours and hours to create my book and sell more than I had anticipated. I would bet the ranch that every boyfriend you get wouldn't want to see you and other women naked at every opportunity. Don't shoot the messenger.
Male or female, readers and listeners of my book are encouraged to send comments and questions to me. "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" is available at www.TotalCreep.com.
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
The readers wonder
The readers and listeners of "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" continue to write:
Steve C. of OH writes:
"Thanks for some great advice. You are right about how many guys can use your information. You have helped me to see some really hot babes taking off their tops. If I may ask, after all of your years of spying and observing, what is your most favorite sighting?"
Good going, Steve. (I decided to edit out your description of where you see them.) As far as a favorite, that's so hard to choose. I gave it some thought, and actually came up with a specific answer for you. It wasn't easy. It's tough to pick something ahead of being at nude beach when a group of college age babes arrive and I watched some get totally naked and others take off their tops. Then there are the babes I have watched take a shower, and others I have spied on while they freely walk around their apartments stark naked. Another one that comes to mind was a babe who lived across the courtway from me and would come home late on weekend nights. Most of the time she didn't pay attention to the angled blinds and I could watch her strip down from fully dressed to stark naked.
But to answer your question, if I really have to pick one favorite, I'd go back to a sighting back in the early 90's. One of the babes I spied on regularly would sometimes not close her bedroom blinds all the way. This was a night when I saw her light on and focused in just in time to see her laying on her bed wearing a t-shirt and panties. She was reaching and pulling her panties down but not off, and pulled her t-shirt up, although not as far as I would have liked.
For the next few minutes, she was playing with herself. Big time. I have seen just a few babes doing themselves over the years, but none like this babe. She was moving and spreading her legs and manipulating her hands as if she were conducting an orchestra. Maybe she has music playing. I don't know. But she was totally and completely into it. It's as though she was acting as both the guy and the girl and her every movement showed how much she was enjoying those few minutes.
Minutes later, she got very frantic and I could tell that she finished. Then she laid there for a moment. That was fine with me since it gave me a good look at it. She then got up and headed toward the bathroom but slowly pulled her panties back up as she was walking away. Even though I didn't get to see her boobs that night, your question helped me to recall how entertaining and wonderful it was to watch her.
Thanks for the question, Steve. Let me know if you get to see even more babes.
Steve C. of OH writes:
"Thanks for some great advice. You are right about how many guys can use your information. You have helped me to see some really hot babes taking off their tops. If I may ask, after all of your years of spying and observing, what is your most favorite sighting?"
Good going, Steve. (I decided to edit out your description of where you see them.) As far as a favorite, that's so hard to choose. I gave it some thought, and actually came up with a specific answer for you. It wasn't easy. It's tough to pick something ahead of being at nude beach when a group of college age babes arrive and I watched some get totally naked and others take off their tops. Then there are the babes I have watched take a shower, and others I have spied on while they freely walk around their apartments stark naked. Another one that comes to mind was a babe who lived across the courtway from me and would come home late on weekend nights. Most of the time she didn't pay attention to the angled blinds and I could watch her strip down from fully dressed to stark naked.
But to answer your question, if I really have to pick one favorite, I'd go back to a sighting back in the early 90's. One of the babes I spied on regularly would sometimes not close her bedroom blinds all the way. This was a night when I saw her light on and focused in just in time to see her laying on her bed wearing a t-shirt and panties. She was reaching and pulling her panties down but not off, and pulled her t-shirt up, although not as far as I would have liked.
For the next few minutes, she was playing with herself. Big time. I have seen just a few babes doing themselves over the years, but none like this babe. She was moving and spreading her legs and manipulating her hands as if she were conducting an orchestra. Maybe she has music playing. I don't know. But she was totally and completely into it. It's as though she was acting as both the guy and the girl and her every movement showed how much she was enjoying those few minutes.
Minutes later, she got very frantic and I could tell that she finished. Then she laid there for a moment. That was fine with me since it gave me a good look at it. She then got up and headed toward the bathroom but slowly pulled her panties back up as she was walking away. Even though I didn't get to see her boobs that night, your question helped me to recall how entertaining and wonderful it was to watch her.
Thanks for the question, Steve. Let me know if you get to see even more babes.
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Out-Creeping The Competition
OK, so it wasn't really competition, but a funny story nonetheless at lunch time today.
Whenever possible I try to sit and have lunch where I can choose my seat and get a good view of a nearby babe. It may be looking up a skirt or seated where she would have to turn toward me when getting up, a side view down a collar, behind looking down her jeans or skirt, or perhaps near a stairway or ramp for better up or down angles.
Today while scouting I noticed a decent looking babe sitting at a table with a guy. They were sitting close together and it was obviously a husband or boyfriend and not co-workers. I'm in a cold weather city this week, so she had her coat hanging on the chair behind her. As I came up by the table next to them (across the small aisle), I saw that she had low rise jeans on and that her shirt was up enough so that I could see some butt crack.
She wasn't the most attractive babe around, and it was maybe an inch and a half of butt crack visible, but that made for the best available view to enjoy while having lunch. I immeidately knew to sit at the nearby table, positioning the chair to look sideways at where she was sitting.
Since she had her coat behind her on the chair, she probably figured that no one could see down her jeans. And from behind her, she was right. But she didn't realize that I had a direct side view and could see some butt crack on my side, while her guy was blocking a view for anyone from the other side. In other words, I was the only one who could see it.
I had a clear view except when a couple of people walked by in that aisle. I did notice that the second person to walk down that aisle walked by rather slowly. Needless to say, that aggravated me since it took away a couple of seconds from my view of the babe's butt crack. I looked over to see it was a young guy walking away.
A moment later, I saw the same guy walking right back in the same aisle and looked at his face. Sure enough, he slowed up just as he was coming up behind that babe. I watched as his eyes looked down as he was passing by her from behind. He walked past her (and where I was sitting), then looked ahead, and sped up his pace to walk away. So there it was. He noticed those precious low rise jeans and went back down the aisle to get a glance at her butt crack, too!
It was like an out-of-body experience to watch someone else do as I do. And he did it well. From that angle he had to have seen. And probably saw more butt crack than I could, however brief in his case. While I got a much longer look.
My first thought was to say something to try and catch his attention and ask if he had read or heard "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide". He did that move so well that I truly believe he knows my book. I couldn't, though, since the babe and her man would have heard. The guy might have denied it. Plus, I know it isn't good to reveal my true identity, especially in a busy area.
Yet, I consider this a funny and wonderful story. Seeing someone else do exactly as I have done for years, and having it be successful.
Besides, I wanted to wait until the babe got up. There was the chance that her man would get up first and she would get up behind him and turn her back toward where I was sitting and show even more butt crack. Alas, she turned toward me and got up, so no additional view.
Maybe I'll go back by that same food court tomorrow and watch for that same guy. I could maybe watch him make the rounds before I sit down and use him to help me find one or more babes giving a view. Then again, since I eat there on occasion, maybe he knows to watch where I sit.
Could this be the start of Team Creep?
Readers and listeners of "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" (available via www.TotalCreep.com) can e-mail me with questions and comments at ic.london at live.com. I'll also respond to comments under this post, if asked.
Whenever possible I try to sit and have lunch where I can choose my seat and get a good view of a nearby babe. It may be looking up a skirt or seated where she would have to turn toward me when getting up, a side view down a collar, behind looking down her jeans or skirt, or perhaps near a stairway or ramp for better up or down angles.
Today while scouting I noticed a decent looking babe sitting at a table with a guy. They were sitting close together and it was obviously a husband or boyfriend and not co-workers. I'm in a cold weather city this week, so she had her coat hanging on the chair behind her. As I came up by the table next to them (across the small aisle), I saw that she had low rise jeans on and that her shirt was up enough so that I could see some butt crack.
She wasn't the most attractive babe around, and it was maybe an inch and a half of butt crack visible, but that made for the best available view to enjoy while having lunch. I immeidately knew to sit at the nearby table, positioning the chair to look sideways at where she was sitting.
Since she had her coat behind her on the chair, she probably figured that no one could see down her jeans. And from behind her, she was right. But she didn't realize that I had a direct side view and could see some butt crack on my side, while her guy was blocking a view for anyone from the other side. In other words, I was the only one who could see it.
I had a clear view except when a couple of people walked by in that aisle. I did notice that the second person to walk down that aisle walked by rather slowly. Needless to say, that aggravated me since it took away a couple of seconds from my view of the babe's butt crack. I looked over to see it was a young guy walking away.
A moment later, I saw the same guy walking right back in the same aisle and looked at his face. Sure enough, he slowed up just as he was coming up behind that babe. I watched as his eyes looked down as he was passing by her from behind. He walked past her (and where I was sitting), then looked ahead, and sped up his pace to walk away. So there it was. He noticed those precious low rise jeans and went back down the aisle to get a glance at her butt crack, too!
It was like an out-of-body experience to watch someone else do as I do. And he did it well. From that angle he had to have seen. And probably saw more butt crack than I could, however brief in his case. While I got a much longer look.
My first thought was to say something to try and catch his attention and ask if he had read or heard "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide". He did that move so well that I truly believe he knows my book. I couldn't, though, since the babe and her man would have heard. The guy might have denied it. Plus, I know it isn't good to reveal my true identity, especially in a busy area.
Yet, I consider this a funny and wonderful story. Seeing someone else do exactly as I have done for years, and having it be successful.
Besides, I wanted to wait until the babe got up. There was the chance that her man would get up first and she would get up behind him and turn her back toward where I was sitting and show even more butt crack. Alas, she turned toward me and got up, so no additional view.
Maybe I'll go back by that same food court tomorrow and watch for that same guy. I could maybe watch him make the rounds before I sit down and use him to help me find one or more babes giving a view. Then again, since I eat there on occasion, maybe he knows to watch where I sit.
Could this be the start of Team Creep?
Readers and listeners of "Total Creep - A Guy's Guide" (available via www.TotalCreep.com) can e-mail me with questions and comments at ic.london at live.com. I'll also respond to comments under this post, if asked.
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Why sexting "laws" need to be re-defined
Way too many people, mostly parents and women over 30, need to rethink punishing teens for sexting, and especially the implications it can have long term.
First of all, Sexting is really use of modern technology to do something that has been going on for years. To hear some people tell it, no one ever heard of sending partially or fully naked photos of themselves to girls or guys until cell phones came with cameras. Nothing could be further from the truth.
I can't help but believe that some of the moms and older women who are offended now were "victims" of this 20 to 30 years ago. People seem to forget the wonderful invention of the "instant" camera years ago. You could take a photo and within seconds it came out of your camera and you had your snapshot. No waiting for a roll of film to finish and rewind to be taken to a retailer for development. (!!)
There it was. The perfect means for girls to take partially or fully naked photos of themselves, whether straight down or in the mirror, just like they do now. Or let the boyfriend take it. Within a few seconds, they had a photo to give to a boyfriend. Maybe even multiple photos. No one would find out. And, of course, the boyfriend then had the choice of keeping the photo all for himself to enjoy, or sharing by showing it to other guys.
Before that, you took your chances. I knew of one guy who worked in a camera store (that would develop film for customers) who got a hold of some nude photos of a babe in the neighborhood she actually brought in to have developed.
Heck, I still joke privately with a longtime friend about him showing me topless pics of a babe he was seeing on the side back in the 80's. I also recall visiting a couple of dorm rooms in the 80's and guys reaching into the "secret desk drawer" to share some mighty fine photos of their college conquests. Face it, I can't have been the only guy to know and know of guys who used to do this and/or benefit from instant cameras in this same way.
The only difference with Sexting is that the technology makes it easier for guys to SEND the photos to their friends. However, based on the laws and regulations, which were written BEFORE cell phone cameras made this happen, guys and girls are now easily caught with evidence.
Girls are caught with "evidence" because of sending pics of their bodies to guys. Guys who share via cell phone are caught with "evidence" because of the receiving and sending. Now, this seems to be a prominent issue.
My point is that nude photos of teen "friends" are such a not a new thing, as many of the parents and others would have you believe. The only thing that has changed is that the modern means of distribution allows teens to be "caught" much more easily than in the past.
In that respect, it was much easier for guys years ago, even if they weren't able to easily share these photos with other guys. Personally, I took the selfish route, and that is why I still recommend that (selfish route) for guys.
I didn't take any photos of the girls I saw naked. While I had none to share with my friends, there was no way I could get caught with evidence of what I had seen. There were a few times I had guy friends over and had them bring their binoculars so they could see some girls along with me, but again, there was no evidence.
In my book (Total Creep - A Guy's Guide, available via www.TotalCreep.com) I wrote about how to do this. One of my favorite stories from when I was in high school was about a girl a year younger (she was a junior while I was a senior) who lived in the next building over from me. I knew her and she was really cute, but she had a boyfriend. In fact, I knew him too.
There were a few instances when I would see her stark naked in her bedroom using my binoculars. I'm pretty sure I saw more of her than her boyfriend ever did, at least in her apartment. But, so what, I wasn't able to share any photos with my friends. I also never got into trouble, and she never knew what I saw. (The funny part of the story is that when the guy realized I was a neighbor he asked if I knew her, and I said "I'm familiar with her". If he only knew!) I developed many of my spying techniques using binoculars from my parents' apartment windows, and would watch several high school and college babes. The difference is I never got caught, and never distributed any photos or "evidence" of what I saw.
Sexual things take place at parties involving high school students these days that didn't happen when I was growing up. Guys' pants come down in the dark, girls tops come up. But unless a parent or adult supervisor finds out, or a girl complains to an adult, these activities go on unreported and with no consequences.
In other words, it is so much easier for guys to enjoy seeing classmates and schoolmate girls partially or fully naked than it ever was when I was growing up. But there have always been opportunities, and that percentage of girls willing to show breasts or better to the guys.
For that matter, just yesterday I came across this story written by a female student at Purdue, in which she reveals she is ready to share naked pics of guy friends. Technically, she is inviting legal trouble, and her name and e-mail address are right there:
http://www.purdueexponent.org/index.php/module/Section/section_id/5/?module=article&story_id=19045
Don't get me wrong. I am not saying it was the same for me to see unsuspecting teen girls naked using binoculars as the girls who send naked photos of themselves voluntarily. However, girls who were violated in a sense by me invading their privacy had no idea of what happened, compared with girls who are willingly sending out nude photos, even if intended for confidence.
Teen boys are not sex offenders or pornographers and shouldn't be treated as such. If they didn't have access to those photos, they wouldn't do this. By now, teen girls know the consequences of these photos getting out.
That doesn't make it right, but it shouldn't mean they are subject to punishment or arrest. In my opinion, teen guys seeing teen babes naked should not be placed in the same category as an adult male having photos of a 16 year old. This is not sex. Many 15, 16, and 17 year olds are fully developed and have a woman's body. Looking is not the same as touching.
To the moms and women over 35 who have problems with Sexting, I understand the concerns. However, stopping cell phone distribution of photos doesn't stop the activities at parties, girls flashing a group of guys, spring break, wet t-shirt contests, and for that matter, digital cameras that hold photos until such time as they are easily deleted. I can tell you that more and more high school and college guys are aware of the risks of sexting, and already have other means to privately share photos of girlfriends and/or classmates with their friends.
Meanwhile, I'm going to continue spying with binoculars and using my techniques while in public to check out the babes down shirts, up skirts, down jeans, and any other glances I can see. Without any evidence. No harm, no foul.
As for Sexting, the punishment should be different than that for a sex offender or worse. Sending photos to others is not the same as a rape or sex crime. It's up to the girls not to send these photos, or for guys to find other ways to enjoy them without evidence. That will eliminate these Sexting issues once and for all!
First of all, Sexting is really use of modern technology to do something that has been going on for years. To hear some people tell it, no one ever heard of sending partially or fully naked photos of themselves to girls or guys until cell phones came with cameras. Nothing could be further from the truth.
I can't help but believe that some of the moms and older women who are offended now were "victims" of this 20 to 30 years ago. People seem to forget the wonderful invention of the "instant" camera years ago. You could take a photo and within seconds it came out of your camera and you had your snapshot. No waiting for a roll of film to finish and rewind to be taken to a retailer for development. (!!)
There it was. The perfect means for girls to take partially or fully naked photos of themselves, whether straight down or in the mirror, just like they do now. Or let the boyfriend take it. Within a few seconds, they had a photo to give to a boyfriend. Maybe even multiple photos. No one would find out. And, of course, the boyfriend then had the choice of keeping the photo all for himself to enjoy, or sharing by showing it to other guys.
Before that, you took your chances. I knew of one guy who worked in a camera store (that would develop film for customers) who got a hold of some nude photos of a babe in the neighborhood she actually brought in to have developed.
Heck, I still joke privately with a longtime friend about him showing me topless pics of a babe he was seeing on the side back in the 80's. I also recall visiting a couple of dorm rooms in the 80's and guys reaching into the "secret desk drawer" to share some mighty fine photos of their college conquests. Face it, I can't have been the only guy to know and know of guys who used to do this and/or benefit from instant cameras in this same way.
The only difference with Sexting is that the technology makes it easier for guys to SEND the photos to their friends. However, based on the laws and regulations, which were written BEFORE cell phone cameras made this happen, guys and girls are now easily caught with evidence.
Girls are caught with "evidence" because of sending pics of their bodies to guys. Guys who share via cell phone are caught with "evidence" because of the receiving and sending. Now, this seems to be a prominent issue.
My point is that nude photos of teen "friends" are such a not a new thing, as many of the parents and others would have you believe. The only thing that has changed is that the modern means of distribution allows teens to be "caught" much more easily than in the past.
In that respect, it was much easier for guys years ago, even if they weren't able to easily share these photos with other guys. Personally, I took the selfish route, and that is why I still recommend that (selfish route) for guys.
I didn't take any photos of the girls I saw naked. While I had none to share with my friends, there was no way I could get caught with evidence of what I had seen. There were a few times I had guy friends over and had them bring their binoculars so they could see some girls along with me, but again, there was no evidence.
In my book (Total Creep - A Guy's Guide, available via www.TotalCreep.com) I wrote about how to do this. One of my favorite stories from when I was in high school was about a girl a year younger (she was a junior while I was a senior) who lived in the next building over from me. I knew her and she was really cute, but she had a boyfriend. In fact, I knew him too.
There were a few instances when I would see her stark naked in her bedroom using my binoculars. I'm pretty sure I saw more of her than her boyfriend ever did, at least in her apartment. But, so what, I wasn't able to share any photos with my friends. I also never got into trouble, and she never knew what I saw. (The funny part of the story is that when the guy realized I was a neighbor he asked if I knew her, and I said "I'm familiar with her". If he only knew!) I developed many of my spying techniques using binoculars from my parents' apartment windows, and would watch several high school and college babes. The difference is I never got caught, and never distributed any photos or "evidence" of what I saw.
Sexual things take place at parties involving high school students these days that didn't happen when I was growing up. Guys' pants come down in the dark, girls tops come up. But unless a parent or adult supervisor finds out, or a girl complains to an adult, these activities go on unreported and with no consequences.
In other words, it is so much easier for guys to enjoy seeing classmates and schoolmate girls partially or fully naked than it ever was when I was growing up. But there have always been opportunities, and that percentage of girls willing to show breasts or better to the guys.
For that matter, just yesterday I came across this story written by a female student at Purdue, in which she reveals she is ready to share naked pics of guy friends. Technically, she is inviting legal trouble, and her name and e-mail address are right there:
http://www.purdueexponent.org/index.php/module/Section/section_id/5/?module=article&story_id=19045
Don't get me wrong. I am not saying it was the same for me to see unsuspecting teen girls naked using binoculars as the girls who send naked photos of themselves voluntarily. However, girls who were violated in a sense by me invading their privacy had no idea of what happened, compared with girls who are willingly sending out nude photos, even if intended for confidence.
Teen boys are not sex offenders or pornographers and shouldn't be treated as such. If they didn't have access to those photos, they wouldn't do this. By now, teen girls know the consequences of these photos getting out.
That doesn't make it right, but it shouldn't mean they are subject to punishment or arrest. In my opinion, teen guys seeing teen babes naked should not be placed in the same category as an adult male having photos of a 16 year old. This is not sex. Many 15, 16, and 17 year olds are fully developed and have a woman's body. Looking is not the same as touching.
To the moms and women over 35 who have problems with Sexting, I understand the concerns. However, stopping cell phone distribution of photos doesn't stop the activities at parties, girls flashing a group of guys, spring break, wet t-shirt contests, and for that matter, digital cameras that hold photos until such time as they are easily deleted. I can tell you that more and more high school and college guys are aware of the risks of sexting, and already have other means to privately share photos of girlfriends and/or classmates with their friends.
Meanwhile, I'm going to continue spying with binoculars and using my techniques while in public to check out the babes down shirts, up skirts, down jeans, and any other glances I can see. Without any evidence. No harm, no foul.
As for Sexting, the punishment should be different than that for a sex offender or worse. Sending photos to others is not the same as a rape or sex crime. It's up to the girls not to send these photos, or for guys to find other ways to enjoy them without evidence. That will eliminate these Sexting issues once and for all!
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